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Karen answers Joshua

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Comment by Joshua R. on 23 Jul 2010 at 6:07 pm

Hi Karen,

I got Richard Baer’s book Switching Time, and I finished it today. What was integrating with Karen Boo like?

Joshua

Dear Joshua,

Thank you for your interesting question! Karen Boo integrated with Thea, another alter. They merged together at the same time during one session. I believe that was best for Karen Boo, especially since she was an infant and unable to grasp the process of integration. I believe Karen Boo’s influence on my system was minimal. She just held a lot of feelings, but there was not too much of her to cause any integration problems. I believe Thea, as a merged alter, was more of an asset to merge within me, and she facilitated Karen Boo’s merger.

Karen

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Karen answers Eli

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Comment by Eli on 15 Jul 2010 at 3:28 am

Dear Karen,

I hope you are well and thank you for helping so many people who have been through such horrendous abuse. You are such an inspiration and so brave.
 It upset me to read about Nadia, the young girl pregnant by her father. I really hope she can get help and support. What a terrible thing to go through at 13.
 I will never understand how your own family can do these horrendous things.

Big hug to you Karen…

love

Eli in the U.K .

Dear Eli,

Yes, what Nadia went through at thirteen was horrendous! Thank you for sharing your concern. Nadia’s story upset me, too. I hope she is receiving support at this time. Perhaps I will hear from her again, and if I do, I will post her letter here.

I enjoy helping others and feel blessed that I am able to. I feel ill each time I hear that a father rapes his daughter or that a child continues to suffer abuse. I’ve hoped that with all the media awareness, their stories could change the world, but I’m afraid there will always be sick individuals that hurt children. It’s my hope to bring knowledge and awareness of what can happen to a child when abused, and the lasting trauma that follows when an abused child becomes an adult.

Thank you for your “hug”!  I felt it!  And thank you for believing me to be an inspiration and brave! That’s very kind of you!

Karen

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Karen answers Nan Eve

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Comment by Nan Eve on 11 Jul 2010 at 2:51 pm

Am wondering if you have any advice for us. Some of us are coming up on the anniversery of the death of the twins, who were born at just 25 weeks gestation. Not everyone is aware of this and it always proves to be a time of great struggle, and often losing time and acting out. I would like this year to be different. I want to honor the boys’ memories as they should be. July is a hard month – sigh

Dear Nan Eve,

I’m sorry about your loss. I hope you are able to cherish the twin’s memory in your own way. I can understand that it may be a time for alter chaos, but together you can help each other. Maybe your therapist can help you all to understand and honor the twin’s passing. I’ll be keeping you close at heart.

Wishing you all my best!

Karen

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Karen answers Jessica

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Comment by Jessica on 06 Jul 2010 at 10:54 pm

Karen,

I wish I knew why God allows such horrible things to happen to people, children especially. I am very sorry you went through all that you were forced to endure. Your story is moving, touching and daunting- my eyes have been opened and I pray that individuals going through a similar circumstance find sanctuary.

Jessica

Dear Jessica,

How kind your thoughts are! I know it appears that God may allow such horrible things to happen. But I don’t hold God responsible. People, my father and grandfather, created the abuse that hurt me, as well as others. I don’t believe it’s God’s fault that I suffered. I believe my multiplicity was a God sent coping mechanism. I believe God helped me survive by giving me the gift of dissociation.

Abuse is abuse. There are many who continue to suffer without help. It saddens me to hear their stories. Of course, I’m sad that I was abused, but I’m grateful to be alive and able to encourage hope through sharing my story.

Thank you for caring and sharing. I truly appreciate you.

Karen

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Karen answers Lorrie

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Comment by Lorrie on 04 Jul 2010 at 10:05 pm

Karen,

Hi! How are you! I read your book and believe I am a mpd woman like you. Can’t explain it but know I can’t recall things that I know I have done but not in my right mind. My question comes after much debate. What should I do with my thoughts?

Lorrie

Dear Lorrie,

I believe finding a good therapist and sharing your thoughts is a great first step! Share what you have shared with me and include your thoughts about what led you to believe you have mpd.

Please don’t diagnose yourself. Only a qualified therapist can make a diagnosis after an evaluation. In my opinion, you should seek help as soon as possible to find out if you really have such an illness.

Thank you for sharing and for your question.

Karen

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Karen answers Nan’s second comment

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Comment by Nan on 28 Jun 2010 at 5:09 pm

Hi! I am one of 12 that live inside our adult’s body. We are in therapy with an awesome therapist but sometimes it seems like it is taking forever to get to the point where everyone is at peace. It doesn’t seem fair that we had to be abused for so long and then we have to go to therapy for so long to deal with what happened to us. You are a real trooper and an inspiration to us. Thank you!

Nan

Dear Nan,

You’re welcome! I appreciate your kind compliments! Thank you!

It takes time to heal.  Please be patient and take care of yourself. We are all different and your system may need more time. My therapy lasted over eighteen years. Do all that you can to help your therapist understand you. I know that it’s not fair to need therapy for so long, but sometimes we have no choice but to do what’s best for us. I needed more time. So may you. But in the end it’s worth it! To be free is an amazing feeling!

Wishing you peace,

Karen

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Karen answers Nan

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Comment by Nan on 29 Jun 2010 at 2:41 pm

I am scared. By reading your book, I realize how similar our systems are. I never thought of guiding our therapist as to how I think things might progress a little easier without too much trauma on the younger ones and without instigation those that act out. do you think I should tell my therapist about your book and try to discuss it with him? I really need your advice on this. Maybe I can move the therapy along and not feel so traumatized as I become aware of the new parts. Does this make any sense?

Nan

Dear Nan,

Yes, you make perfect sense. I think you should share with your therapist that you read my story so that he may help you better understand what you are experiencing. I believe you are brave to finish reading my story, and may need support to understand your own personal system and how your alters are functioning. I wasn’t able to read any books on my illness during therapy. I tried once, but I felt too overwhelmed and stopped. I can’t imagine what you may be going through. Please call your therapist for advice. During my therapy, I shared almost everything with my therapist. Don’t be afraid. Your therapist will be there for you. It’s his job to help sort this out and help in your journey.

Though each of us is unique, all multiples have common threads that are similar. We each have been abused and our alters were created to help us survive through dissociating our pain. That dissociation helps in the short term, but not the long term.

Wishing you a safe journey as your healing continues.

Karen

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Karen answers Issy

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Comment by Issy on 27 Jun 2010 at 6:34 am

Good morning. Karen Overhill!

Checking up on you! Praying for you!

Issy from Australia

Dear Issy,

Thank you for checking in on me; especially for your prayers! I’m doing well and looking forward to hearing more from you.

Have a nice day!

Karen

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Karen answers Martina

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Comment by Martina, UK on 25 Jun 2010 at 5:22 am

Hello Dear Karen!

A bright new day! Yes it IS! Re-start yourself, Miss Karen Overhill! I miss you! Full of great advice and wisdom. That’s who you are. Added hope to my speech that came from you! Do not allow yourself to succumb to the dark side. Come back to us!

fb friend and supporter of YOU!

Graduation Class ‘10! Hip, Hip, Hurrah!

Cheers! from the UK

Martina

Dear Martina,

How great to be missed! Thank you for the inspirational push! I am doing well. I appreciate your kind thoughts and glad you were inspired by something I have written. That means a lot to me!

I promise not to succumb to the dark side…

Wishing you all my best!

Karen

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Karen answers Susan

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Comment by Susan on 24 Jun 2010 at 10:11 pm

Hi Karen,

Do you love who you are? love your children? love richard Baer? Love your parents who wronged you? Do you hate anyone? Do you know what love is? How is it possible to know love when hurt so bad? I cant understand. Please elaborate. What about hate? Who do you hate? Help me understand.

Susan

Dear Susan,

I don’t love everyone, but I don’t hate anyone. I think I know what loves is, at least for me. My love comes from faith. That is what is meant to be, God willing. Those who have hurt me sadden me, but I have forgiven them. Hate harbors anger, fear, and mistrust. If I allow myself to hate, I would become ill. And there is no room in my life to feel ill over any relationship that caused me grief. I remove myself now from toxic relationships, pray for those who do wrong, and learn valuable lessons from my experiences.

Hope my answer helps. Thank you for asking!

Karen

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