Archive for January, 2011

Karen answers Cindy

admin on Jan 22nd 2011

Comment by Cindy on 03 December 2010, at 10:10 PM

Thanks for posting – fabulous interview. You guys really explained DID in terms anyone can understand. As always, you’re a courageous lady! ♥ ♥ ♥

Dear Cindy,

You’re welcome! Thank you for your kind compliments and awesome thoughts! I will share them with Dr. Baer. You encourage me to continue on!

Karen

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Karen answers Laura

admin on Jan 22nd 2011

Comment by Laura on 03 Dec 2010 at 10:08 pm

It was a great interview!!!! You really raised awareness for anyone listening. You rock!

Laura

Dear Laura,

Thank you! I’m glad to hear we raised awareness. That’s what Dr. Baer and I hoped for!

Wishing you all my best!

Karen

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Karen answers Elle

admin on Jan 21st 2011

Comment by Elle on 03 Dec 2010 at 10:05 pm

Karen,

You did an awesome job with Dr. Baer on the Illumination Show! I learned so much more than I hoped too. I feel so much better about myself. I can explain things better, too!

Thank you guys!

elle

Dear Elle,

You’re welcome! Thank you! I am glad to hear your kind thoughts on our interview! It’s important for me to share to bring understanding and awareness. I believe that in sharing we all can learn from each other.

Wishing you all my best!

Karen

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Karen answers Deano

admin on Jan 21st 2011

Comment by Deano on 03 Dec 2010 at 10:01 pm

Hello there Karen (If this is really you!) I’ve been doing research into you the last couple days and just wanted to say it’s amazing, I can’t even begin to understand how such strong things can develop in somebody’s mind.

I’m creating my own movie for a Media project I’ve been set and I’m basing my main character around you and your experiences.

I just have one question, were you able to communicate with yourself (other personaities) on demand?

Thank you!

Dear Deano,

Hello, yes, I am Karen. It’s wonderful you are using my story as media project. I’m touched.

Could I communicate with my alters? Yes and No. I would hear them at times, especially at night, but I was unable to talk directly to them. Communication with them came in the form of writing. Some of my alters would leave me notes, and I would journal everyday. At bedtime, all that had happened in an alter’s day would come to me at a “conference.” It would be at this time that I would gain the knowledge of most of the day’s alter activity. I couldn’t summon an alter when I wanted. I could ’t persuade an alter to attend to my needs and wants. My alters would appear on an as needed basis, but I couldn’t control it. My alters caused me chaos but kept me from falling. I survived with alter help.

Thank you for your questions. Wishing you much success.

Karen

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Karen answers Jeanette/Carla

admin on Jan 21st 2011

Comment by Jeanette/Carla on 03 Dec 2010 at 9:58 pm

Hi Karen

I just listened to your interview, it must be running every hour, I caught it at 6pm and it looks like it’s getting ready to run again. You did a fantastic job! Many Kudos to you, congrats!

I have to tell you that your book was difficult for me to get through, a lot of tears, especially when Dr. Baer talked about Miles and was it Holdon? The angry boys. I really broke down on that. It is so painful, I know that you know what I mean. I have been ignoring those parts, I have little boy parts and have been avoiding them. I am stuck in this one part of my life where things are starting to come up and out and I know that I haven’t gotten through to the worst parts yet and it is so frightening and the pain is just pushing up. I have been trying to keep them at bay I think, I don’t know how, I just know that I am afraid of them and the pain they hold. But just hearing you and Dr. Baer mention your boys broke me.

It’s not fun going through this. I get so angry sometimes. I get angry when I see people out here in cyberworld trivialize all this, bragging almost that they have MPD or DID and it’s almost as if they are trying to outdo each other and I want to strangle them. It’s much too painful to trivialize. If they were struggling with it, they wouldn’t be trivializing it.

I appreciate you very much Karen. I see people like you and it gives me hope. Because there are days that feel so hopeless. So overwhelming. I want to wake up and find out this is all some kind of really bad joke. Because it feels so hopeless, like it’s never going to come together, I’m never going to come together. But then I see you and know that it can be done, there is hope, just keep pushing each day. Keep pushing. It is much more frightening than when I didn’t know anything about anything. When I didn’t remember my life, or my week or my day. It was easier then. But I have to believe that this will all pass and healing will happen and it will all be over with eventually.

Thank you for your presence, it means a great deal to someone like me who needs hope. You are such a warm, beautiful person and I am so grateful to have crossed paths and gained courage from you. If you are a praying person, please remember me when you can. I have found that I haven’t the ability these days to do much praying myself, but I do believe in it. I have some issues to work through in this area, but I do believe in it.

(Hugs) ♥

Jeanette/Carla

Dear Jeanette/Carla,

I hear you. Thank you so much for your heartfelt message. I’m inspired by your determination! Seeing your posts each day on Facebook helped me. We all search for peace and understanding. By sharing, knowledge is gained. I truly believe that there is a reason things happen. I’m glad to have met you. Please continue on your journey in the best way you can. Many times I felt like my multiplicity was never ending, but with faith and determination, I proved myself wrong. Healing does happen; it simply takes patience, support, understanding and time.

During my therapy, I tried to ignore my boy alters, especially the anger in them. Keeping secrets in therapy did not work. I became depressed and hopeless. On the outside, I never appeared angry and I could not accept that there were troubled parts of me ready to explode with deep emotional trauma. I didn’t want to believe the horror my alters held separate from me. I tried to fight those dark memories, but there was no escape. Finally, after much resistance, I shared my pain with Dr. Baer. It turned out that my angry alters were my protection. My anger was kept separate from me so that I could survive. It was an extreme coping mechanism that I used to keep my abuse away from me. I believe once you start sharing with your therapist, your journey will take on a new path to healing. A sense of calm will come after the storm.

There will always be people who criticize multiples. Why? Because of lack of knowledge. That’s why I share my story.

Please know that I’m here for you. Wishing you all my best for a safe journey to wellness.

Karen

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Karen answers Helena

admin on Jan 21st 2011

Comment by Helena on 01 Dec 2010 at 2:24 pm

You were great on yesterdays interview. Just ordered your book., I can’t wait to get it! Loved Dr. Baer’s voice, too! No wonder you were able to work well together. My therapist is great but has the most annoying voice that my alters freak out and things don’t go as well for us. Dr. Baer’s voice is soothing!

Great to hear you are doing well. You do sound normal! I am encouraged and inspired by you!

Thank you!

Helena

Dear Helena,

How sweet of you to share! Yes, I’m glad Dr. Baer had a soothing voice, His voice was a great help to me during my healing journey.  I may have felt too distressed to build rapport with someone who annoyed me. But Dr. Baer’s voice was not his only asset; it was his intelligence, unconditional care, and ability to remain calm while I was in distress that helped me. Dr. Baer was non-threatening. He never raised his voice, never humiliated me, or made me feel less than normal. For all that he has done, I am forever grateful.

Thank you for your kind thoughts and compliments! I believe Dr. Baer will be thrilled to hear you think he has a soothing voice.

Karen

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Karen answers Berk

admin on Jan 21st 2011

Comment by Berk on 25 Nov 2010 at 11:08 pm

HAPPY THANKSGIVING DAY! KAREN AND RICHARD! FROM THE UK WE LOVE WHAT YOU BOTH DO TO HELP OTHERS. WE ARE THANKFUL YOU CARE!

GOOD EATING! GOOD DAY!

Dear Berk,

Thank you! Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours! I am grateful for your support as well as from all those who support my decision to share my story in an effort to help others.

Wishing you all my best!

Karen

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Karen answers Robyn

admin on Jan 21st 2011

Comment by Robyn on 23 Nov 2010 at 11:30 pm

Dear Karen,

Having read your book A life in Pieces I was horrified and appalled of what your family did to you. What a brave and courageous woman you are. I hope now you have found peace and happiness.

Dear Robyn,

Thank you for sharing! I admit my family didn’t act in my best interest; that’s why I share my story. It’s my desire to reach people in hope to help prevent others from experiencing the same. There are signs. It’s important to me to bring forth awareness. Knowledge is the key. I share because I care.

I have found peace and happiness, though it continues to be a lifetime process. My journey continues on.

Karen

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Karen answers Dupree

admin on Jan 21st 2011

Comment by Dupree on 20 Nov 2010 at 1:36 am

Karen,

i wish i was the right age to read your book  but i have heard a lot about it!!

The tie part is just horrible!! am glad you are ok and alive!! If you where not i would be sad that you didn’t get to be my friend!!

Dear Dupree,

I know you do BUT I also know that it would difficult for you to understand. My story will be there always; no need to rush and read it. Trust your Mom and she will share more when you are ready.

Please know that I’m okay. I’ve survived and we will always be friends. You, your mom, and Jason are very important to me.

Be safe. Be cautious. Be curious. Enjoy life. And continue to be the sweet young lady that you are.

Karen

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Karen answers Penny

admin on Jan 21st 2011

Comment by Penny on 18 Nov 2010 at 11:01 am

Dear Karen,

Thank you! U are the one who changed my life. I am in therapy now. I hope my life gets better. Pray for me. Love you.

Penny

Dear Penny,

Of course I will pray for you. Thank you for sharing! Wishing you all my best on your journey to wellness. Please know that I care.

Karen

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