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Karen answers Pearl

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Comment by Pearl on 14 Jul 2012 at 3:08 pm
Dear Karen,
I tried to friend you on Facebook, but they said you have too many friends and the limit is 5,000 but you have 5,147, so how can you have over 5,000 and I can’t get on? I read your book and really want to know more about you now. Hope you are doing good. Hope there is a way to be facebook friends with you. You are a very powerfully inspirational woman. Don’t worry, I know God comes first and I’m sure He knows you best. I am so blessed to have read your story. Thank you!
Dear Pearl,
Thank you for sharing and for your encouraging words! I’ve recently started to accept new facebook friends as my total has fallen below 5,000. I will continue to add on friends as I can.
It’s true God comes first and He knows me best, but it is also true that each person who writes and shares with me are important to me as well.
Wishing you all me best!
Karen

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Karen answers Gabriel

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Comment by Gabriel on 15 Jul 2012 at 1:19 pm

Karen. If you became ill from a brain injury how would you want to be treated? What I mean by my question has to do with your complex mind cured your mpd so you must know the secret to brain dysfunction on many levels. I may sound crazy but I am only curious about you. Had any doctor requested your advice? Book inspired me to major in neurology. Thank you.

Dear Gabriel,

Thank you for your question; it’s a very good question indeed! I’m glad to hear my story inspired you to go into the field of Neurology. We most certainly need more interest in this area.

I highly doubt that I know the secret to brain dysfunction. I’ve been through quite a bit, which is true, but my illness has always been a mystery to me, too. One thing for sure is that to heal you need support from those who not only believe in you but who are there for you time and again. It’s important to have good listeners who will work with you, not against you, and have medical professionals who will not simply give you a drug to “fix” anything.

In my opinion, I started healing once all drugs were removed. I believe the mind is powerful and can heal without the use of drugs. There was a time, early in my therapy, when Dr. Baer tried his best to treat me with drugs he assumed could be helpful. They were not. I believe Multiple Personality Disorder, now known as Dissociative Identity Disorder, is best treated with less medication and more talk therapy. Multiplicity needs more research; it is often thought of as a “made-up” condition. It is not.

Yes, there have been many doctors who have written to me on this blog and I answered them to the best of my knowledge.

Karen

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Karen answers Nadirah

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Comment by Nadirah on 17 Jul 2012 at 9:56 pm

How do I help a friend, my best friend, who is suffering greatly from past abuse. She changed so much it is my concern she has mpd. Most lately she is not herself. I am frightened to confront her. When your alters were active would they attack a concerned friend who suggests therapy? I feel lost. Shes been like this for three months now. Any advice?
Nadirah
Dear Nadirah,
Thank you for your question! It’s my hope that you are no longer afraid. Please remember not to be afraid or show fear because those actions will simply cause any aggressive alters to be aggressive. Trust me when I say multiples are attuned to your fears and can tell when someone is lying or false. I know you feel lost, but there is hope in being consistent. Be cautious and take care of yourself first. If you need to step away to do that, then do so.  Relationships go both ways, be a friend and hopefully she will understand your concern and turn around and respect you for caring.
My alters never attacked anyone for suggesting therapy, my alters may have attacked when they were attacked or threatened by someone. An alter’s reason for being is to protect, not harm.
Wishing you all my best.
Karen

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Karen answers Rob, MD

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Comment by Rob on 28 Jul 2012 at 5:27 pm

Karen, if you are among the living I would be interested to know whether you considered donating your brain to science? Neurology? Have you met Colin Ross MD? Ross appeared on a show Dark Matters and I bet he would like your brain or pick your brain if you are alive. Ross did extensive research on dissociative disorder including hypnosis. I have not found a greater case study than yours. Richard Baer did an outstanding job with you. Best wishes. HJL MD

Dear Rob, HJL MD,

Interesting questions… but no, I’ve never thought of donating my brain because to me all brains look alike. Besides, no one has ever asked me to do so. Not even Dr. Baer! And he treated me!

Though I’ve never met Dr. Colin Ross, I did write to him and received a letter from him that invited us to meet. However, after I responded he never followed up, so I assumed he was no longer interested. You may be right as to Dr. Ross picking my brain. Though I believe I’m the only documented multiple to have lived and survived through complete integration, he may find my story unbelievable. I’m still interested in meeting with him one day.

Thank you for your compliments on Richard Baer’s work. Yes, I agree, he did an outstanding job on me!

Karen

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Karen answers Kurt

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Comment by Kurt on 31 Jul 2012 at 1:52 am

Facing the fear of death if you did not submit to your abusers must have devastated you. How did you escape?

Kurt

Dear Kurt,

I’m not sure how to answer your question, but I believe I escaped inside myself the moment that fear started to rise. That’s when I would dissociate and an alter would take over, leaving me absent from the experience and void of the feeling. I escaped by simply not being available as me.

Thank you for your interest in my fear of death.

Karen

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Karen answers Janice

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Comment by Janice on 03 Aug 2012 at 9:21 pm

Hello Karen! Read your story and couldn’t put the book down. I never read a book that kept me interested as yours. After spending time getting to know you through your story, I longed to write to you. I wrote here, facebook and email. I have been honored that you so kindly took the time to write me back on facebook. I love you and am so glad you are here for people like me. Thank you.

Dear Janice,

Hi again! Thank you so much for your kind words. It’s my desire to be of help to others. I enjoyed our shared facebook messages.

Wishing you a wonderful day!

Karen

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Karen answers Kristen

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Comment by Kristen on 06 Aug 2012 at 10:22 pm

I know this is a stupid question but what do you think about a book like Fifty Shades of Grey being sold in grocery stores and your book being banned because of it’s graphic content. I asked my store years ago and was told your book detailed too much but in reading Fifty Shades I am shocked. I am curious. Your book inspires. Thank you for putting your life on the line to help others.

Dear Kristen,

Good question! Thank you for noticing. I have read all three Fifty Shades books and thought the same myself. Maybe because the Fifty Shades series of books are fiction, not real life, and my story reveals the reality of child sexual abuse. There are many books in the grocery store that are much more detailed in a sexual way than my story. I can’t explain this either. I do not know who makes decisions about what types of books are allowed, but in my opinion, they must not have read my book and judged it without proper knowledge.

Thank you for sharing you found my story inspiring. It’s what I had hoped for and when the sequel is published one day, it is my hope that it too will inspire. Maybe by then both books will be sold at the same time, just as the Fifty Shade’s 3-packs are!

Karen

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Karen answers Yolanda

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Comment by Yolanda on 11 Aug 2012 at 2:12 am

Was your father a sadist? Did he worship the dark side? In reading Switching Time I would say the abuse you endured was sadism. What do you know about it?

Dear Yolanda,

I’m not sure, I don’t know what the definition of a sadist is, but I think no, my father was not a sadist.  He was a sick-minded man with no respect for or knowledge of women. I believe he followed his own path of destruction based of his own demons and lack of faith. Even today I cannot fully comprehend his actions other than he was not right in the head.

Thank you for provoking a few thoughts to help me through thinking what this man was all about. I continue to learn something new every day.

Karen

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Karen answers Del

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Comment by Del on 14 Aug 2012 at 2:41 pm

Hey, Karen,

I am feeling depressed lately and love reading all your inspiring facebook posts. I want you to know that waking to read something simple and easy over coffee is what gets me through my self defeating self centeredness. I feel alive with quotes of hope and thank you for providing them without fail. Your story is amazing and haunting but also gave me a start line. God be walking by you all the time. I wished He walked with me.

Delanie from Atlanta

Dear Del,

Thank you for sharing! I love Facebook and sharing inspiration daily. There was a time I thought I shared too much, but after receiving hundreds of positive letters like yours, I continue on…  I post what inspires me and helps me though my day.

God is with you, too… Listen for Him.

Wishing you all my best!

Karen

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Karen answers Daniel, psychologist in training

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Comment by Daniel, psychologist in training, on 16 Aug 2012 at 4:13 pm

Karen! I picked up my required reading texts, included was Switching Time. I start college in a few days and did not need to start reading anything yet but could not put your book down. I am excited to delve into debate and conversation about your story. I love a challenge and you my lady, are going to be one fine challenge! I may decide to use your story for my thesis. I have learned from Baer’s approach and treatment. That’s the kind of MD I would like to be. Must keep an open mind. Are you in continued therapy at this time? Hope you stay well!

Dear Daniel,

That’s exciting news! Wishing you great success in your studies. I’m glad to hear that you have learned much from Dr. Baer.

I’m not in therapy at this time, but I do attend “Celebrate Recovery” which is a blessing to me. I’ll receive my two-year coin in May. I continue to grow in faith and purpose and look forward to completing the sequel to my story.

Thank you for sharing. I love being a challenge, so if any debate questions arise, please know you can write to me.

Karen

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