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Karen answers Teresa

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Comment by Teresa on 31 Oct 2012 at 5:43 pm

Karen,

First, I so admire your courage and perseverance in your recovery. I wish you and your children a lifetime of happiness!

I wanted to ask you about your abusers; have any been turned over to law enforcement? What about the priest? If he is alive, he is probably still abusing?

Thank you again for your courage and sharing your story.

Teresa Kettelkamp

Dear Teresa,

Thank you for your sweet compliments, especially for my children, who by the way, are doing wonderfully and are strong-willed and confident adults!

Regarding my past abusers, yes, a few have been arrested. The priest died many years ago and was never arrested, fined, or reprimanded. The priest never physically abused me, but he witnessed the filming of the abuse and never received punishment. Sadly, although he knew, he allowed the abuse to happen. In my eyes, he was an abuser, and should have been sent to prison. Abuse is Abuse.

In my opinion, it doesn’t matter how much, what kind, or how long… all should have been punished.

Karen

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Karen answers Rebel

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Comment by Rebel on 29 Sep 2012 at 9:50 am
Dear Karen,
I’m a skeptic who read your story. Amazing write. Unbelievable, yet believable. Why do I write you? Because I’ve been there and experienced the same type of abuse and no one, let me repeat that NO ONE, believed in me BUT you experienced and can identify the unmistakenably accurate horrorific pain in a way that helps me understand me. How in God’s name did you do this? Where did you come from? Thanks a bunch! God be with you forever.
Dear Rebel,
Thank you for your message! I’m glad to hear from you! Yes, it’s true not many believed me; actually I tried my best to hide in plain sight, in fear of people who did not believe me. It’s difficult for those who have not experienced the pain from abuse to comprehend the emotional and physical pain that sets you apart from everybody.
Funny you ask how I did this? I don’t know, but do know it took help from my therapist, alters, and the friends who believed in me. I came from nowhere in particular and lived a lifetime everywhere within my mind until now. These days I’m feeling well and happy to be alive in Texas.
God bless you!
Karen

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Karen answers Helena

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Comment by Helena on 23 Sep 2012 at 4:36 pm

Karen. I am contemplating electric shock treatment. Did you ever have it instead of medication therapy. I read you didn’t do medication. I’d like your opinion. Scheduled for mid November because I want more time to prepare. Can you ask Dr. Baer. I sent you a email at karenoverhill@yahoo.com. Got it off facebook. TY

Helena

Dear Helena,

Thank you for asking about electric shock treatment. No, I never had this and personally would never have it done. I’m glad Dr. Baer never suggested this procedure. If he did, I may have stopped therapy altogether. In my opinion, what worked best for me was talk therapy. But I’m no professional. Please seek more information; talk this over with a qualified psychiatrist and make a decision based on your own situation. No two people are alike and no two treatments can compare.

Karen

I appreciate you writing back to me through my email… below is what you shared and my response:

“Hi Karen,

I talked ECT over with my doctor and we decided to wait a while before doing it. I thank you for your thoughts because it gave me a reason to question my doctor. I told him I wanted more information to make a decision. He complied and no treatment for now. I would not have had the courage to ask. I always did what he said. Thank you for telling me to talk and ask questions. I feel good about my decision.”

Helena

Dear Helena,

Thank you for sharing your decision to talk with your doctor and wait a little longer before having electric shock treatment.  I am glad to hear you had the strength to ask and gain more knowledge. That’s the best way to heal.

Wishing you all my best on your journey to heal.

Karen

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Karen answers Chictita

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Comment by Chictita on 19 Sep 2012 at 2:46 pm

Hi Karen hope this finds you well. Do you dissociate anymore? After finishing integration and therapy what has been your worst issue to deal with? I suppose all is perfectly normal but to you to feel whole and if you do, what do you attribute to it? Thank you for answering so many questions. I admire your faith. I admire your strength.

Dear Chicqtita,

Thank you for asking… no, I no longer dissociate. I have no reason to. My life is on the upswing and I’ve never felt so good. Of course, since integration, there have been many ups and downs but that comes with living in reality. Each time I fall I rise again with more courage and strength. I don’t look back and don’t perceive any life threatening issues ahead. I look forward to being my best self. Truthfully, I welcome my imperfections.. Currently I am taking classes and though difficult, I am doing well. My faith is strong and secure.

There is a reason I am here and it is my desire to encourage hope to those who have suffered as I have. Feeling whole is a daily joy and life challenge.

Karen

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Karen Answers Mal89

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Comment by Mal89 on 16 Sep 2012 at 3:59 pm

Hey, just read your book. The abuse was disturbing, but despite everything you became victorious over your abusers. Your were able to overcome your illness, and in turn you were able to live a full life. I cried at the end, not out of sadness, but happy that you were able to leave the abusive relationship with your husband. It was an amazing story of survival and healing. I do have a question. The book doesn’t say how old your niece was when the abuse came out in the open? I was also wondering how is she coping with what happened to her? Also, does she reach out to you sometimes.

Mal89

Dear Mal89,

Thank you for sharing! Yes, I have been victorious over my abusers and hope to help others, too! I’m living my best life at this time. I’m happy and enjoying many activities I once never thought possible. My abusive husband passed away two years ago, and during the last few years, I often wondered what would have happened if he received therapy and help. But it was best to let go and not go back there. My hope is that he is at peace.

My niece was six at the time the abuse came to light. She is doing wonderfully! She’s happily married and expecting her first child. I am so proud of her. We talk often and she has read the book. We have a close relationship and she knows I’m here for her always.

Karen

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