Karen answers Darlene

admin on Apr 21st 2009

Comment by Darlene on 20 Apr 2009 at 2:18 pm

Hi Karen,

What happens when someone gets right up in your face now that the alters aren’t around to protect you? If you get angry how do you defuse? Your story was full of inspiration after getting past the graphic parts. I am glad you survived and told your story. Good Luck!

Dear Darlene,

When someone gets right up in my face, I don’t back down.  I try to stare them down and hope they back off.  My alters are all within me. Therefore, there’s their fight in me, too!  I can’t tolerate much aggression and rudeness.  Life wasn’t easy when my alters shared my time.  But my days of being compliant are over.  However, since I no longer feel the need to back down, there have been times when a challenge has left me shaken and weary.

In general, I hate confrontation, it’s one of my weaknesses.  When someone confronts me, pushes me beyond my comfort zone, and I feel threatened, most likely I will listen to them rant without giving them the satisfaction of my reaction.  When I get angry, I try to figure out why before acting on it. It take’s a lot to push me to that point, but it does happen.  Most of the time I try to maintain a sense of calm in all that I do.

Thank you for your compliments and well wishes.


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