Karen answers Tiffany A.

admin on Mar 23rd 2015

Dear Karen,

Your story and pain throughout it all touched me mentally and emotionally.  The pain in my childhood resembled parts of yours. People like us being able to survive are a miracle.  Knowing that you were able to recover and find hope to live another day is inspiring.

One day, I hope to find solace as you did and be able to live and want to live. Everyday is a struggle and my first 18 years of life were spent in therapy. My mind and body have never healed, yet when I read your and Richard’s book, I gained hope.

All the best and hoping you’re well,

Tiffany A.

Dear Tiffany,

Thank you for sharing! I am glad to hear my story has touched you in a way that gave you hope. It takes time to heal. Though my therapy ended years ago I continue to have a few bad moments. It is at these times I do my best to remember all that I had learned during my seasons of therapy. The difference is now I am able to place my thoughts in three different areas: past, present and future. I can’t change my past nor can I predict my future. As for today, I do the best I can.

Wishing you all my best,

Karen

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Karen answers Levada

admin on Mar 23rd 2015

Karen, I am at home for abuse victims.  I feel like a whore and a wreck after being raped by my father.  In therapy sessions I recalled all.  Last week I confronted my father and asked him why.  He beat me up and asked me why I made him?  Your story helped me cause I thought of killing him but didn’t. Thanks to you I am receiving help.
Dear Levada,

Thank you for sharing.  I’m sorry to hear you were abused. But glad you are receiving help. It takes courage to seek help. Therapy helped me understand. Please know that in no way you are to blame for the abuse at the hands of your father.  When a father abuses his child it’s never the child’s fault.  No child asks to be abused.  I empathize with how you feel about yourself for I felt the same.  Many years were spent feeling shame as if I asked to be abused.  Many years spent believing I was a whore because my father said so.  Many years I dreamt up thoughts of how to kill my father.  But it was never in me kill anyone, and as therapy progressed I learned that bad thoughts were okay but bad actions were not.

Wishing you all my best as you continue your healing journey.
Karen

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Karen answers Faith Heals

admin on Mar 23rd 2015

Karen,
Did you see the Home Run movie tonight?  I read somewhere you attend Celebrate Recovery?  Do you?  Your story is amazing and can inspire people to having hope.  Talk to us.  Tell me about your experience.
Dear Faith heals,

Yes, indeed! I did see the Home Run movie and felt it to be powerful and truthful. Yes, I’ve attended Celebrate Recovery for over three years now.  I started after moving to Texas when my therapy with Dr. Baer ended.  I attend Celebrate Recovery to help with new life challenges.  Newly moved, the loss of my ex-husband, and issues of people pleasing.  I believe it’s necessary to keep myself healthy and Celebrate Recovery has been the place of choice to help me become my best self.  No one is perfect and after the life I lived it is important that I recognized the need for support.  I have met some wonderful new friends who care, encourage, and accept me without judgment.  I never felt better and my faith has increased ten fold.

Thank you for asking!  I recommend Celebrate Recovery.
Karen

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Karen answers PJ

admin on Mar 23rd 2015

Karen,
What have you done the last few years to improve. your newly integrated mind? Do you yourself busy or calm? Do you get headache? Take pain pills? Triggers? Keep yourself well. write about it. I need your newly integrated wisdom. TY
PJ

Dear PJ,

Hmmmm…interesting questions. I’m interested in all kinds of things. I have tried many different things, such as helped with Habitat with Humanity, reading mentor, The Landing, which is a teen recovery group with Celebrate Recovery, painted murals, designed many things, write daily, attended bible studies, to name a few. I am filling my time with all that I can. I keep myself busy but in a calm way, for I no longer feel stressed with my choices. There were a few moments I felt triggered but the feeling passed almost immediately due to the way I place the trigger. If for past or future events, there is nothing I can do to change them, if present, then I deal with the said trigger immediately. As far as pain pills, I do once in a while for my fibromyalgia chronic pain, but I prefer natural, holistic approaches to pain therapy and use acupuncture. I no longer suffer the same type of headaches I had while alters were active. Not sure if this is considered integrated wisdom but all that I do is to improve my daily life to function as my best self.

Thank you,
Karen

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Karen answers Dennison

admin on Mar 23rd 2015

I read multiple personality disorder is the same as dissociative identity disorder and that it is a form of schizophrenia. Are you schizophrenic? Is there a difference? Can Richard Baer define the differences? Does being labeled schizophrenic offend you? I don’t believe the two are the same. You are amazing.
Dennison
Dear Dennison,

Yes, multiple personality disorder is the same and has been renamed dissociative identity disorder. It is not a form of schizophrenia. I am not nor ever have been diagnosed schizophrenic. No, I am not offended, by no means. I have come to terms with my diagnosis and have healed. I’m not perfect, for no one is, but there are differences in the two in which I am not qualified to share.

Thank you for thinking I am amazing! Love your compliment.

Karen

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Karen answers Harlee Lynn

admin on Mar 23rd 2015

Hi Karen.
Picked up Switching Time for s friend as a prank cause she is weird and acts like many people herself.  Since her birthday didn’t get here yet I started to read it.  No joke I sincerely owe you an apology.  No joke you have endured more than anyone I know.  I am overwhelmed and will never judge another book buy its cover or title.  Thank you for having the courage to publish.  I love you.  I will recommend your book to my professor.  Very well written.  You are my new hero.
Dear Harley Lynn,
Love that you read the book before giving it as a gift. It’s funny how we all read a title and laugh to ourselves thinking thoughts that do not compare with the stories written truth. I admit to doing similar things in the past but learned quickly not to judge a book by it’s cover. Thank you for your honesty. I truly believe if people would read my entire story they would come to a better understanding of what my life had been like. I have heard from a few people who stopped reading after the first few chapters and criticized the unknown end. That saddened me for in order to really understand my story, the whole story needs to be read.
Thank you for sharing, for loving me, your compliments and for sharing with your professor. I appreciate your letter.
Karen.

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Karen answers K.C.

admin on Aug 18th 2013

Comment by K.C. on 15 Dec 2012 at 9:25 pm

Hi Karen,

I have not read your book but have ordered it. My Mother has D.I.D and I am reading anything and everything to help her work with them everyday of her life. Her husband of 40 yrs is not supportive at all and uses it to hurt her (he is my step father).  I am very protective of her and need to learn more to help her. Do you have any advice for me?  Thank you, kindly.

Dear K.C.,

Thank you for sharing! Please read my story and read through my answers here on my blog. If you have any questions, I’ll be more than happy to answer them.  I’m sorry your stepfather is not helpful with your Mom’s healing journey. That’s sad, but not unusual. Having this illness is hard for most to comprehend. It’s only been recently where it’s been accepted as real. Maybe you can share what you discover with your stepfather and the both of you can help get your Mom the therapy she needs to feel better and heal.

My advice is to go easy.  Don’t overwhelm your Mom with too many facts or all that you’ve read. Be supportive. Be there for her. Be a good listener and believe in her. Also, share with your stepfather that using her illness against her is not helpful, but more damaging to her. It’s my hope he stops; it’s important she not suffer further abuse. In my opinion, although I’m not a therapist, if pushed too far she may be triggered, which in turn can cause heightened behavioral issues and possible suicidal thoughts. Well, at least that’s what being pushed too far did to me.

Wishing you all my best.

Karen

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Karen answers Donnise

admin on Aug 18th 2013

Comment by Donnise on 16 Dec 2012 at 7:12 pm

Dearest Karen,

I just finished the book & was absolutely shocked, and am truly at a loss for words here. I am SO very sorry about all the pain you endured. You are beyond strong to have worked through it all with Dr. Baer. You are absolutely amazing! I am so happy you have been able to heal & I hope you have a VERY happy rest of your life. Take good care, all the very best to you, my dear.

Dear Donnise,

Thank you for caring about me and your awesome compliments!  I’m doing well these days and consider my life to be a work in progress. I have a few bad moments now and then, but I move past them quickly without despair. My years in therapy were indeed arduous but well worth the effort Dr. Baer put in to counsel me. We shared my journey to help me heal and it was not an easy one. But I’m very glad to have healed. I’m blessed, and most certainly living my life to the best of my ability.

Thank you for your well wishes!

Karen

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Karen answers Pearl Diver

admin on Aug 18th 2013

Comment by Pearl Diver on 16 Dec 2012 at 8:53 pm

I tell my alter, “Be a pearl; hide evil memories from me; don’t show them to me.”

You know a pearl has a sand grain in its center.

So that is where ‘alters’ come from; they are ‘pearls’ hiding evil memories from the root personality inside a shining pearl of beauty.

Tell your alter or alters, “You are a beautiful ‘pearl’. A jewel.”

Then they won’t feel so bad about who and what they are.

And if integration is too difficult or scary, then work towards harmonization.

Dear Pearl Diver,

Thank you for sharing your amazing thoughts. I’m glad you have come to understand your alters.

For me, integration worked! I am free of sharing the world with other parts of me. In the process of integration, I’ve not lost the memory of who my alters were… for now all my alters are me and I am my alters. We’re simply merged together to be one woman with a variety of interests.

Wishing you a peaceful journey to what is best for you and your alters.

Karen

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Karen answers Rayviki

admin on Aug 18th 2013

Comment by Rayviki on 18 Dec 2012 at 3:30 am

Hi karen did u recover frm ur personalities or not yet…?

Dear Rayviki,

Yes, I have recovered successfully with integration of all seventeen of my alters in 1998. Not one alter has returned. I live my life as one without dissociation. I highly doubt my alters will ever return. They have been merged within me and we are now me. One woman. No alters.

I’m very happy to be me. Thank you for your question,

Karen

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