{"id":1093,"date":"2009-06-18T19:40:02","date_gmt":"2009-06-19T00:40:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=1093"},"modified":"2009-06-18T19:40:02","modified_gmt":"2009-06-19T00:40:02","slug":"karen-answers-gillian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=1093","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Gillian"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote>\n<div class=\"cmtinfo\"><span style=\"color: #999999;\">Comment by Gillian on 14 Jun 2009 at 11:52 am<\/span><\/div>\n<div>Don\u2019t stop believing in yourself. \u00a0I almost did. \u00a0Instead at my worst moment I picked up your book and decided it would be just what I needed to finally suicide. I couldn\u2019t put your book aside until I read it all. I changed my mind tonight thanks for saving my life even when you don\u2019t know me. I figured it this way if you can live after all you went through I should be able to live with the nothings that I want to suicide over. My grief comes from hurting so badly afer my husband told me he never loved me. My husband is gay and just wanted me for his wife as a cover so that no one would suspect anything other than a normal couple. I was at the point of believing I was unloveable when I read ST. Thank you again for allowing people like me into your life to see things can\u2019t be that bad..<\/div>\n<div>Thank you. I will find a therapist to talk to on Monday.<\/div>\n<div>Gillian, South Dakota<span style=\"-webkit-text-stroke-width: -1;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<div>Dear Gillian,<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div>Thank you for\u00a0your encouraging words. I&#8217;m glad that Switching Time helped with your decision to continue on and not suicide. \u00a0I am glad that there was something in my story that brought you out of your despair. \u00a0Please don&#8217;t let your dark\u00a0thoughts go without proper care. \u00a0It&#8217;s important to talk through what you have experienced with a trained therapist.<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div>There are still days when I struggle to get through. \u00a0What&#8217;s important for me is to take a few deep breaths and allow myself space until those dark thoughts pass. What appeared to be so troubling and devastating usually\u00a0winds up being\u00a0a temporary setback. \u00a0Once I realize this I&#8217;m usually ready to face\u00a0the day.<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div>I empathize with\u00a0your pain from being told that you are not loved. \u00a0I&#8217;m sorry that your husband hurt you in that way. \u00a0I would&#8217;ve felt devastated, too. \u00a0Please\u00a0remember that your husband\u00a0betraying your trust\u00a0had nothing to do with you being unloveable. \u00a0Not your fault. It was his choice. \u00a0I&#8217;m not a therapist, but In my opinion your husband took advantage of you to cover up his homosexuality\u00a0until he decided to come out.\u00a0 What\u00a0a selfish act on his part.<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div>I&#8217;m so glad to hear that you chose to seek help and find a therapist. I wish you all my best for a safe journey to rediscovering your beautiful self.<\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div>Take care.<\/div>\n<div>Karen<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Comment by Gillian on 14 Jun 2009 at 11:52 am Don\u2019t stop believing in yourself. \u00a0I almost did. \u00a0Instead at my worst moment I picked up your book and decided it would be just what I needed to finally suicide. I couldn\u2019t put your book aside until I read it all. 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