\nComment by an abuser and not proud of it on 15 Jun 2009 at 3:44 pm<\/span><\/span><\/p>\nKaren,<\/span><\/p>\nI have abused children in the past. Long time ago, thirty years. don\u2019t do it anymore but live with guilt. The girls, 3 of them, are grown now, probly over 35 years old. I was in prison two weeks ago for a different crime, stole a car, and your book was in the pile. It sounded intyeresting so I read it. The questions at the back made me feel worst. I was 16, black male and preguiced and hurt white girls. I never\u2019d expect them to remember being abused so young. Kids suppose to forget everything. I don\u2019t remember my kid hood. How could you remember? The girls I abused were between 5 and 8. I had no guilt till I read the book. I don\u2019t know what to do with the guilt now that it\u2019s too late. I pray a lot for those girls I hurt. It would be great if people read your book, vicums and abusers to see what happens. I never abused after those girls. I was angry.<\/span><\/p>\nAbuser and not proud of it.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\nDear Abuser,<\/span><\/p>\nI appreciate your sharing your story with us here on the Switching Time<\/em> blog. \u00a0In my opinion, it’s important for all to know what it’s like for an abuser to finally acknowledge their wrong doing. \u00a0Abuse is abuse. \u00a0There are no time stamps that erase the past. \u00a0I hope and pray they have healed and have come to accept that they were not to blame.<\/span><\/p>\nI’m gratified that you felt guilty after reading Switching Time;<\/em>\u00a0that means our story touched a part of you that’s human and real. \u00a0Interesting you found our book in the prison library. \u00a0I wonder what drew your attention to the book in the first place?\u00a0 Was it because it hit a nerve about abusing those girls all those years ago? The fact that you were in prison for another crime suggests there is something much deeper that troubles you.<\/span><\/p>\nI am not a therapist and can’t give advice, but in my opinion, children usually remember the feelings attached to their experience of being abused. \u00a0I remember everything that had happened to me. \u00a0It affected my entire being. \u00a0I never felt good about myself and\u00a0suffered from\u00a0low self-esteem. \u00a0That’s a common reaction.<\/span><\/p>\nI am glad the questions\u00a0at the back of the book made you reflect. It is my hope that both victims and abusers read Switching Time<\/em> to educate\u00a0themselves on what can happen to an abused child.<\/span><\/p>\nMay God have mercy on your soul.<\/span><\/p>\nKaren<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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