{"id":1119,"date":"2009-06-25T19:00:01","date_gmt":"2009-06-26T00:00:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=1119"},"modified":"2009-06-25T21:25:14","modified_gmt":"2009-06-26T02:25:14","slug":"karen-answers-brittany-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=1119","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Brittany"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Comment by Brittany on 22 Jun 2009 at 10:02 pm<\/span><\/div>\n
Dear Karen,<\/div>\n
It\u2019s with bittersweet thoughts that I write you today. I loved your book. But unfortunately can\u2019t understand where the alters fit in with not killing your abusers. Why didn\u2019t they? Why help you survive continuous torture without ending it? If your alters were created to help you why couldn\u2019t they stop the abuse from being done in the first place? I\u2019m not understanding and that leaves me feeling that alters are not worthy of having. Why didn\u2019t your doctor do something to help stop you from being abused by making the alters do what he said? I mean, your husband turned abusive to. Why didn\u2019t the alters kill him? If your alters did kill your abusers would you be charged with murder? Would your doctor defend you? I\u2019m not understanding?<\/div>\n
Brittany\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n
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Dear Brittany,<\/span><\/p>\n

I hear you. There were many times when I asked myself the very same questions you ask. \u00a0I don’t have an answer. \u00a0My alters were created so that I survived. \u00a0I believe I was never able to act violently towards anyone, neither me nor my alters. \u00a0There may have been times when an alter wanted to kill an abuser, especially Karl, but I don’t believe that it was really possible, at least not in my case. \u00a0When one of my alters had a violent intention, one of the other alters always stepped in and stopped him. \u00a0There was always somebody watching.<\/span><\/p>\n

It was never Dr. Baer’s responsibility to stop my abuse; it was Dr. Baer’s job to guide and teach me how to handle and stop my abuse on my own. \u00a0I was an adult and it was a task I needed to learn. \u00a0I believe Dr. Baer felt like stepping in at times, but he couldn’t. \u00a0I remember he pleaded with me to go to a shelter for battered women, but I wasn’t ready. \u00a0I eventually learned to do take care of myself and divorced my abusive husband of twenty-one years.<\/span><\/p>\n

I believe Dr. Baer would’ve testified on my behalf if I needed him to. \u00a0But there’s a lot of ignorance and misinformation about multiplicity. \u00a0That’s one reason we decided to share our journey in Switching Time. There\u00a0continues to be\u00a0so much to learn about the illness I survived.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thank you for your questions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Karen<\/span><\/p>\n

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Comment by Brittany on 22 Jun 2009 at 10:02 pm Dear Karen, It\u2019s with bittersweet thoughts that I write you today. I loved your book. But unfortunately can\u2019t understand where the alters fit in with not killing your abusers. Why didn\u2019t they? Why help you survive continuous torture without ending it? If your alters were […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1119","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-karens-answers"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1119","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1119"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1119\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1122,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1119\/revisions\/1122"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1119"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1119"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1119"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}