{"id":1132,"date":"2009-06-29T21:06:21","date_gmt":"2009-06-30T02:06:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=1132"},"modified":"2009-06-29T21:06:21","modified_gmt":"2009-06-30T02:06:21","slug":"karen-answers-lucy-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=1132","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Lucy"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Comment by Lucy <\/cite>on 29 Jun 2009 at 5:57 pm<\/em><\/div>\n
I am a woman who was abused by her father. Like you I turned out nice. I know how hard it was to get through each day. I have been there too. Thank you for telling your story. When I read your book I felt un-alone. I never knew anyone who had similar experience like me. I am not a multiple but very well could\u2019ve been. In a way I wish I was a multiple like you then I would\u2019nt have remember anything until I was older. When I was a child I remembered every day. I am 38 years old now and your story encouraged me to go for help. I am nice but sad because I can\u2019t tell anyone I was abused. I fear being judged. What would you as a woman suggest I do. I value your opinion. If you say therapy will help me I will go.<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/blockquote>\n
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Dear Lucy,<\/span><\/p>\n

I’m sorry to hear that you were abused, but I am glad to hear that you feel you have turned out nice. \u00a0I understand the price of being nice. It wears on you, especially when you’re unable to vent your underlying anger in an appropriate, safe way. My story seems to have triggered the memories and feelings of many who have been abused. \u00a0I believe that it’s best to deal with what has happened than to suppress dark thoughts.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are many men and women who have suffered abuse. \u00a0It may seem that multiplicity is a wonderful way to cope from abuse, but it is not. \u00a0It wasn’t easy not knowing what happened each a day, where you’ve been and who you’ve spent time with. \u00a0It’s not something I ever felt good about. \u00a0I always felt lost, inadequate, and alone in a world I never understood. \u00a0I felt like I lived a nightmare every day. Recalling my past was horrific yet necessary in order to heal. \u00a0Therapy was\u00a0needed for me to grow, feel nurtured, and gain the strength I needed to make a difference in my life. \u00a0Therapy saved me and I do not regret it.<\/span><\/p>\n

I’m glad to hear that you are seeking help now that you’ve become aware of the need to. \u00a0It’s important to take care of yourself. \u00a0A qualified therapist won’t judge you. There is no need to share your therapy with anyone else. \u00a0I didn’t. \u00a0Please seek help.<\/span><\/p>\n

Karen<\/span><\/p>\n

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