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\nComment by L on 22 Jul 2009 at 9:07 am<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n
Dear Karen,<\/span><\/p>\n
Oh my God, things have gotten so much worse for me. My mom won\u2019t let me leave the house. She won\u2019t let me go anywhere with my friends. I am over 18. It doesn\u2019t matter to her. She got mad because I was fighting with my sister. She completely freaked out and accused me of using drugs. I\u2019ve never done any drugs. I just get mad sometimes. The only thing that made it bearable was being able to go out. I can\u2019t stand it here. I just can\u2019t. I want to die so bad. I have no where to go. I don\u2019t have a job and no money.<\/span><\/p>\n
I had a friend who said he wanted to help, but he hates me now. He thinks I\u2019m pathetic. Nothing has changed since I was a little girl except the sexual abuse doesn\u2019t really go on anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n
L<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
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Dear L,<\/span><\/p>\n
I hope you’re\u00a0having a better day! \u00a0Bad days come and go, everyone has them, including me. \u00a0However, it seems victims of abuse have bad days more often than not. \u00a0I’m sorry to hear that you were abused. \u00a0Although you\u00a0briefly mention that the sexual abuse doesn’t really happen anymore… it appears that the abuse continues. \u00a0Whether in verbal or physical form, abuse is abuse. \u00a0I know it’s hard to imagine you\u00a0can some day get away from all that causes you unhappiness. \u00a0If you are being abused in any way, please seek help soon. \u00a0It’s important that if you are having thoughts of wanting to end your life that you find a therapist to help you right away. <\/span><\/p>\n
It sounds like your mom may have over-reacted to the fight you had with your sister. \u00a0Some of us accuse and say hurtful things when we’re angry. \u00a0My mother would also say horrible things\u00a0when she was angry. \u00a0Please hang in there until these dark moments pass! \u00a0Remember you are over eighteen and your life has just begun and you have so much to look forward to. \u00a0I know things are difficult for you at home at this time but is that reason to end your life? \u00a0No. \u00a0Please don’t hurt yourself. \u00a0You can dream of a better tomorrow.<\/span><\/p>\n
During my dark days, I would journal like crazy. \u00a0I wrote and wrote and wrote until I\u00a0exhausted myself\u00a0and\u00a0my pain was transfered onto paper. Through writing I was able to deal with my stress and focus in a productive way. \u00a0For me, journaling helped. \u00a0Maybe it\u00a0can help you, too?<\/span><\/p>\n
I wish I could be of more help. \u00a0I’m not a therapist and I can’t give advice. \u00a0I hope my thoughts and opinions are of some comfort. \u00a0Please take care of yourself first. \u00a0Remember, the most important person to you is yourself. \u00a0And if you don’t take care of yourself, you will become stuck and unable to move forward.<\/span><\/p>\n
Wishing you a better day.<\/span><\/p>\n
Karen<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n
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