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\nComment by Lisa on 25 Jul 2009 at 12:08 pm<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
Hello,<\/span><\/p>\n
I am a 23 year old, married, mother of one. I am in the mist of the story you have allowed to be shared, and I am blown away. I am sure you have heard that before. Anyway, I stumbled upon the book and it caught my eye because just three years ago my therapist told me that he believed I have DID. I already knew when he told me, but like you, I felt as though no one would believe me, I sometimes to this day think maybe I have made this all up. My question is when did everything become real for you\u2026.I am feeling like sometimes I make it up, but it is the rush to my head, the light-headedness and pressure that makes it real. I believe once I really accept it, then I can start to heal, but how can I believe myself?<\/span><\/p>\n
Thank you.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Dear Lisa,<\/span><\/p>\n
I understand that you are blown away by my story after hearing what you are going through. \u00a0It’s true, many have said the same, but once they read through the entire book, they feel much better about what they have read. \u00a0When someone says they can’t continue reading, I ask them to finish anyway, for closure. \u00a0During the first third of the book, it’s horrific and hard to imagine. \u00a0The journey to healing follows through to the end where you will see a great mystery unfold. \u00a0I believe it’s important to finish reading once you’ve started, otherwise you will not know the true miracle of why I am here, alive and well, and able to bring hope to others who may have suffered from being abused. \u00a0I believe we learn from each other, and fear can control us in a way that disables us from moving forward.<\/span><\/p>\n
I knew something was very different about me before I started therapy with Dr. Baer. \u00a0I knew I lost time and feared telling him because I myself found myself questioning my past and lost time. \u00a0I first needed to feel secure and build trust. \u00a0Building trust with Dr. Baer took a few years. \u00a0I had to be sure he was the one to accompany me on my journey. At first I shared short episodes and moments. \u00a0I recall being so afraid he wouldn’t believe me that I wouldn’t share much detail and skimmed through my story.<\/span><\/p>\n
It’s interesting to hear you say you sometimes believe you made it all up. \u00a0I felt the same way, too! \u00a0I had gone through many moments of doubt. \u00a0What I did during those times was seek proof, in a round about way. \u00a0I would ask my mother, neighbors or family questions about certain times, dates, situations and have them share their versions of that time period. Each fit exactly into place like a well placed puzzle piece. \u00a0I knew what happened to me was true by listening to family stories. \u00a0For example, once while talking to my brothers about how we all shared the same bedroom, sleeping in separate beds, my one brother said that he couldn’t sleep some nights until I came back. \u00a0I asked him where he thought I went. \u00a0He said, “I don’t know but you were gone for hours after dad dragged you out of bed.”<\/span><\/p>\n
I could no longer ignore the signs of lost time, headaches, and feeling as if I didn’t know myself. \u00a0Finally, I let go and allowed myself to vent in writing and to Dr. Baer. \u00a0The more I shared and the more I journaled the less distress I was in. \u00a0A weight lifted and I was on my way to feeling whole. \u00a0Slow and steady, steady and slow, that’s the only way to go. Please be patient with yourself. \u00a0Have faith. \u00a0It doesn’t matter what you share; just share what comes to mind and your healing will follow. \u00a0There is no right or wrong way in therapy.<\/span><\/p>\n
Wishing you all my best. \u00a0Take care.<\/span><\/p>\n
Karen<\/span><\/p>\n
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