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\nComment by Nurse K on 13 Aug 2009 at 12:53 pm<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
Regarding Carlton\u2019s Post:<\/span><\/p>\n
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You have more wisdom than most of the doctors I work with. I am a nurse, work on a psych unit for eight years now, and the pysch staff are the most annoying people in the world. I had not understood their standoffish behavior and felt their high and mighty attitudes were hurtful to their patients. I now have something to mull over.<\/span><\/p>\n
My thoughts were: When each doctor leaves their patient, we nurses and interns are stuck dealing with the stress their doctors caused. I know that these doctors stir up feelings and that is normal and the reason for the patients’ hospitalization. Yet, arrogance, nonsense and un-necessary stress from lack of doctor empathy is killing me. Doctors who have no empathy nor bed side manner should quit and seek another profession.<\/span><\/p>\n
My thoughts now: Maybe the doctors are just trying to do their best and need to separate their thoughts to maintain their own sanity. Either way, why do people choose a profession that has a no win outcome? I\u2019ve been a nurse for sixteen years. I recently enrolled in a few classes seeing that my anger towards doctors has been increasing. Do you have a clue how many nurses feel like me and feel annoyed with doctors. We constantly share with each other. Reading your response to Carlton, it was definitely an educational wake up call for me.<\/span><\/p>\n
Once again, you never cease to amaze me with your unbiased wisdom.<\/span><\/p>\n
Nurse K<\/span><\/p>\n
Delaware<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Dear Nurse K,<\/span><\/p>\n
Thank you for all your kind thoughts. \u00a0I truly appreciate you sharing your frustrations with most of the doctors you work with on the Psych Unit.<\/span><\/p>\n
I’m not sure what to say or how to respond to all that you have shared. \u00a0I believe there are many reasons for psychiatrists, therapists, and social workers\u00a0to appear indifferent, unfriendly and hurtful. \u00a0I thought about the doctors I’ve come to know and agree that\u00a0some appeared standoffish, slightly rude and arrogant. \u00a0I believe they have their reasons; were they trained that way?<\/span><\/p>\n
There is another way to look at\u00a0a doctor’s attitude. \u00a0There was a time, early in my therapy, that I thought the same of Dr. Baer. \u00a0I thought of him as arrogant, selfish, and annoying, too. \u00a0That was until I realized I was picking up my feelings about me from him. \u00a0I felt that he deflected all that I said as if he were a mirror that I looked into and saw myself.\u00a0As therapy progressed, I came to understand that I\u00a0wasn’t really frustrated with Dr. Baer, I was frustrated with myself and believed\u00a0my frustration\u00a0was the\u00a0frustration I saw in myself through each of my alters.<\/span><\/p>\n
I am not a doctor so I can’t say for sure, but I believe that doctors who work in the mental health field have been trained to be standoffish. If these doctors\u00a0showed their\u00a0feelings, became emotional, or couldn’t handle the intensity that most patients dump on them, they would be useless. \u00a0Doctors who can’t deflect and separate can become depressed themselves if they allow themselves to feel emotion. Therefore, their sucky attitude is meant to be just that. \u00a0That doesn’t means that the therapist does not have empathy, sympathy, or does not care. They do. They just can’t always afford to show it. \u00a0Psychiatrists and therapists need to do their job. \u00a0It’s never about how they feel. \u00a0Their job is to help you deal with how you feel.<\/span><\/p>\n
I’m glad you decided to take a class to help you understand the anger building within you. \u00a0Maybe all nurses who work on pysch units need to take the same class or have a doctor explain what is ethical in treating mentally ill, depressed, or abused patients.<\/span><\/p>\n
Wishing you less anger and a better understanding for the doctors you work with.<\/span><\/p>\n
Karen<\/span><\/p>\n
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