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\nComment by Lois on 01 Sep 2009 at 4:55 pm<\/p>\n
Hi Karen!<\/p>\n
Hope all is well with you! I believe in you and Dr. Baer\u2019s work with integration of the alters one at a time. My thereapist tried to do all eleven of mine at one time and failed miserably. I don\u2019t know what to do. Should I see another thereapist or try again? Does Dr. Baer know what to do when the intergration goes badly? My alters are in worst shape now. I would like to know what you would do Karen if your alter integration failed. Would you trust Dr. Baer again or find someone new?<\/p>\n
Great, you’re great!<\/p>\n
Lois<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Dear Lois,<\/p>\n
I’m sorry your first attempt at integration didn’t work so well. <\/span>Please don’t give up. In my opinion, I believe it’s best to integrate one alter at a time. <\/span>Well, at least that worked for me, and my integration took. <\/span>I’m not sure what Dr. Baer would’ve done if any one of my alter’s integration hadn’t worked. <\/span>I think my work with Dr. Baer took time and patience, years of building trust with each individual alter, and making sure each alter was ready without being forced into an integration. Knowledge of what integration means to each alter is very important.<\/p>\n
Therapy for a multiple is time consuming and can’t be rushed. Trust doesn’t happen overnight. <\/span>Although the goal of therapy is to become one, Dr. Baer never rushed me through therapy to integrate. <\/span>During therapy Dr. Baer never forced any of the alters against their will, nor told them what to do. <\/span>He simply listened intently, waited for signs of an alter’s readiness to integrate, and cared that each alter knew exactly what integration would do to help me become one woman.<\/p>\n
<\/span>Dr. Baer worked hard trying to keep up with all seventeen of my alters. <\/span>Although some of my alters were children, my teen and adult alters were much more complex and needed more time to absorb the whole idea of letting go of their individuality and merging within me. <\/span>Not one alter was lost. <\/span>Each alter is me. <\/span>I am all of them. <\/span>However, now none of them exist as individual parts.<\/p>\n
If I were you, I would give your therapist another chance. <\/span>Integration is a learning process for the both of you. Teamwork. <\/span>What works for one may not work for another. <\/span>If any one of my integrations would’ve failed while I was in Dr. Baer’s care, yes, I would’ve continued on in his care. <\/span>We had built a bond of trust from the ground up and would’ve simply tried again. <\/span>Nothing is perfect. <\/span>If you have a good therapeutic relationship with your therapist, give him another chance. <\/span>Working together is how Dr. Baer and I succeeded. <\/span>I hope the both of you can, too.<\/p>\n
I think your alters may be in chaos at this time. Please speak to your therapist soon; your alter’s need to be reassured that they are not being left alone, in distress, after the failed group integration. <\/span>Your therapist must know how you feel. <\/span>Be honest with him and share with him what you have shared here with me.<\/p>\n
I wish you all of my best on your continued journey to becoming one.<\/p>\n
Karen<\/p>\n
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