{"id":1401,"date":"2009-09-03T20:24:02","date_gmt":"2009-09-04T01:24:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=1401"},"modified":"2009-09-03T20:24:28","modified_gmt":"2009-09-04T01:24:28","slug":"karen-answers-rebeca","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=1401","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Rebecca"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Comment by Rebecca on 02 Sep 2009 at 7:05 am<\/span><\/p>\n

Dear Karen,<\/span><\/p>\n

Thank you for answering questions. My brother has been diagnosed with DID about three years ago. It all makes sense to me now that I read your story. I read your book because of wanting to know more about my brother\u2019s illness. He still lives at home, unable to live on his own. He wasn\u2019t exactly like you, he got in ton\u2019s of trouble. So much help knowing what happened to you. I am so much more understanding of him. The book Dr. Baer wrote about you saved me from a future of hating my brother. You see, my brother is thirteen years older then me, is now thirty, I\u2019m seventeen and a junior in high school. My brother was extremely abused by his father who is now imprisoned. I am worried about my brother at this time because he is extremely agitated now that he found out his biological abusive father is up for an appeal in five months after serving twenty years of a twenty five year sentence. My brother is responding to therapy really well but this information set him back. What can happen if his father comes after him? He no longer has the same last name but what can \u00a0happen to my brothers alters if they spot him somewhere? One of the alter\u2019s is paranoid of everything. I see big problems and don\u2019t know what I can do as a sister to help him. My mom and dad don\u2019t know about the upcoming appeal. I was home when the letter came addressed to my mom. My brother grabbed it from me and read it. I\u2019m really afraid. Should I tell our parents? You don\u2019t have to answer me right away, there is five months to wait.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thank you kindly,<\/span><\/p>\n

Rebecca<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Dear Rebecca,<\/span><\/p>\n

Thank you for sharing your incredible story about your brother and all that he has gone through. Sounds like you and your brother have a close relationship that’s been challenged by his illness. I’m sorry that he is suffering at this time after receiving news about his biological father possibly being released from prison. I ‘m sure that he must be suffering and his alters\u00a0must be\u00a0in chaos. \u00a0I would be, too!\u00a0 You haven’t mentioned whether your brother is in therapy, if he is, that’s good. \u00a0If not, please seek help for him \u00a0soon.<\/span><\/p>\n

Keeping such a huge secret from your parents is not a good idea. I’m sure your Mom has anticipated this day for over twenty years and has the right to know about the letter. \u00a0I believe your Mom and Dad can be of help in lessening the anxiety your brother is feeling. Remember, talking things through works better for a multiple. \u00a0If your brother holds in his pain without sharing with his therapist or your parents there could be damage to his inner system that helped him survive. \u00a0It’s really best to deal with it.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am touched that you chose to write to me. That’s a very big compliment for me. \u00a0I wish I could be of more help and advise you, but I am not a professional therapist. \u00a0At this time I think your brother needs the support of a\u00a0therapist\u00a0to help him overcome any fear and anxiety about his father’s situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thank you for writing, please know that I\u00a0encourage you and him to seek help. <\/span><\/p>\n

My best wishes to you and your family. I will be looking forward to hearing how it all worked out.<\/span><\/p>\n

Karen<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Comment by Rebecca on 02 Sep 2009 at 7:05 am Dear Karen, Thank you for answering questions. My brother has been diagnosed with DID about three years ago. It all makes sense to me now that I read your story. I read your book because of wanting to know more about my brother\u2019s illness. He […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1401","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-karens-answers"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1401","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1401"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1401\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1405,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1401\/revisions\/1405"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1401"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1401"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1401"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}