{"id":201,"date":"2008-09-29T06:41:40","date_gmt":"2008-09-29T06:41:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/switchingtime.wordpress.com\/?p=201"},"modified":"2008-09-29T06:41:40","modified_gmt":"2008-09-29T06:41:40","slug":"karen-answers-maggie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=201","title":{"rendered":"Karen Answers Maggie"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Comment by Maggie on September 22, 2008\u00a011:30 pm<\/a><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

Hi Karen,<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Maggie<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

This book is enough to give one a heart attack, and it\u2019s just what people need to read. True horror that comes from child sexual abuse. Through this book I have learned the extent of what can happen to a child who is repeatedly abused. I never knew that the mind can be so utterly fascinating. I agree that you felt lucky to survive through dissociation. I read most of your interviews and viewed Good Morning America. I have a few questions for you. Do you still have a hard time trusting people? Do you still trust Dr. Baer? I loved the part about the Christmas tie. Does he still have the Christmas tie the alters bought him? Can you elaborate more about the specialness of the tie? Thank you.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n

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Dear Maggie,<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Yes, I still have a hard time trusting people, although I do take more chances in building trust than I did before. \u00a0There was a time I trusted no one; then I built trust with Dr. Baer, and yes, I still trust him. \u00a0It was in building trust with Dr. Baer that I learned how to trust others. \u00a0I\u00a0have learned\u00a0what to look for in relationships, and have formed new friendships. \u00a0I am blessed.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Dr. Baer’s\u00a0Christmas gift tie\u00a0is a memory I will always treasure. \u00a0It was the very first time my alters had agreed and worked together on something positive and special. \u00a0This was important to me for I feared some of the alters didn’t like Dr. Baer, nor did they always agree about where our therapy might lead: integration.\u00a0 I believe this act of compassion and wonder was\u00a0a turning point\u00a0in our therapeutic relationship. \u00a0For me, it meant we, all the parts of me,\u00a0had bonded with someone, Dr. Baer, for the first time ever.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Most the child alters feared men in ties, particulary red ties. \u00a0I believe this tie, red background with designs of children on it, meant this fear was removed. \u00a0I recall the exciting feeling I felt as I drove to see Dr. Baer that day. \u00a0I felt so calm and accepted. \u00a0And as silly as this tie looked, I never realized how special it was until years later. \u00a0I remember the look on Dr. Baer’s face when he read the letter and opened his present: it was priceless, and I felt truly cared for. Whenever I think back to that moment, tears come to my eyes, and I smile.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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I think Dr. Baer still has this tie. \u00a0Dr. Baer saved most everything I gave him, enough to fill a four drawer filing cabinet! \u00a0And I know this tie was very special to him, too.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Thank you for your encouraging words and\u00a0for asking these questions,\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Karen<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Comment by Maggie on September 22, 2008\u00a011:30 pm Hi Karen, Maggie This book is enough to give one a heart attack, and it\u2019s just what people need to read. True horror that comes from child sexual abuse. Through this book I have learned the extent of what can happen to a child who is repeatedly […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-201","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-karens-answers"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/201","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=201"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/201\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=201"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=201"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=201"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}