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\nComment by Lesbo and proud on 28 Mar 2010 at 6:23 pm<\/span><\/p>\n
Karen,<\/span><\/p>\n
Were any of your alters gay? Were you gay before therapy? Is that why you went? Did you become gay after integration? Do you like women more? I mean, do you even like the male species since so many have hurt you? I am a lesbian who would rather kill a man then lay with him. Men are scumbag perverts. All of them. I have ten alters, all female, all hate men. I was raped but worse manipulated by every man I ever met. How could you heal with a male therapist? It must have been torturous.<\/span><\/p>\n
Lesbo and proud.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Dear Proud to be a Lesbian,<\/span><\/p>\n
No, not one of my alters was gay. Therefore, I was never gay before, during, or after therapy ended. I am a woman interested in male relationships. My past abuse at the hands of my male abusers did not ruin my relationships with men. I admit, many men have hurt me through their abusive actions, but not all men are scumbag perverts. The only men to be called that are those who are child predators and men who abuse women for their own individual sick pleasures. Killing men just because they are men is not something that I’d ever consider. I have met and befriended many dear men who have treated me with respect and unconditional love. I treasure my male relationships. <\/span><\/p>\n
I don\u2019t judge anyone who chooses to enter into gay relationships. I care for all people and believe each person deserves to be respected for who they are. I do not condone abusive relationships in any form. Abusers disgust me.<\/span><\/p>\n
I can empathize with your female alters having issues with men after being abused and wanting to protect you from the men who have abused you. If true, it’s sad that every man you have ever known has manipulated you. My heart aches for you. I am not a therapist and can’t give advice, but in my opinion your anger hits too wide a mark. Men may have hurt you, but not all men will. <\/span><\/p>\n
Please know that with help from a qualified therapist, you can change those dark thoughts and come to accept each man as an individual, instead of grouping all men together with the label of \u201cscumbag perverts.\u201d I once mistrusted all men myself. As a matter of fact, when I met Dr. Baer, I mistrusted him, too. But something happened and as time passed, I learned my anger wasn’t with all men, because my anger wasn’t with Dr. Baer. <\/span>I learned my anger was really with my abusers. I learned to be able to accept, trust, and love men while in the safety of my therapy. I believe it was in my best interest to find a male therapist to accompany me. Please give yourself a chance. You could continue your relationships with women just they way you have been, but with the new freedom of shedding your anger towards men.<\/span><\/p>\n
I wish you peace, understanding, happiness, and a sense of calm as you journey your own path to healing from past abuse.<\/span><\/p>\n
Karen<\/span><\/p>\n
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Comment by Lesbo and proud on 28 Mar 2010 at 6:23 pm Karen, Were any of your alters gay? Were you gay before therapy? Is that why you went? Did you become gay after integration? Do you like women more? I mean, do you even like the male species since so many have hurt you? […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2168","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-karens-answers"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2168","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2168"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2168\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2169,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2168\/revisions\/2169"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2168"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2168"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2168"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}