{"id":2252,"date":"2010-05-16T19:46:00","date_gmt":"2010-05-17T00:46:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=2252"},"modified":"2010-05-16T19:46:00","modified_gmt":"2010-05-17T00:46:00","slug":"karen-answers-marge","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=2252","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Marge"},"content":{"rendered":"

Comment by Marge on 29 Apr 2010 at 11:35 pm<\/p>\n

Dear Karen,<\/p>\n

Do you make personal visits to abuse victims? My daughter age 41 attempted suicide because her father raped her when she was twelve. I divorced him right after I found out. He admitted in detail what he had done to her. He is disgusting. He tried to say he was abused to and said he was making her feel better not raping her. I feel sick writing to you but my daughter slit her wrists on April 21st. She\u2019s out of Intensive Care and on a psych unit. We live in Wyoming. Any chance of coming to visit her. I know she admires you because she asked me to talk to you. What about Dr. Baer can he treat her or tell us who can? She is like you Karen. She has mpd with ten parts. She read your book. Dr. Baer may know what to do. You are her last hope.<\/p>\n

Marge<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Dear Marge,<\/p>\n

I\u2019m so sorry I was not able to get back to you sooner. I hope your daughter is safe, and starting her recovery process. I\u2019ve visited a few victims who were nearby, but don’t usually do so. I am not a therapist and can’t give advice. I couldn’t give your daughter the attention she would require to help her heal. I’m sure there are wonderful therapists in Wyoming who could help her. When she feels up to it, she can write to me here. Dr. Baer is no longer in practice, and since we both live in Chicago, it would be difficult for either of us to participate in your daughter\u2019s treatment. I\u2019m glad to hear your daughter read my story, but I wonder if something in it triggered her own memories of past abuse? Triggers can cause deep feelings to appear when least expected, and without treatment can cause depression, low self-esteem, and suicidal thoughts.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m also happy to hear you took the right actions once you found out what happened to your daughter. I know that leaving a marriage must have been traumatic for both of you. Abuse is abuse. Through your strength and courage, you left an abusive relationship, which was the right thing to do. I’m sorry your daughter continues to suffer. I admit I continue to have occasional dark thoughts, too, but I try my best to move forward. My past pain belongs in my past. You didn’t mention if this was your daughter’s first suicide attempt at age 41, but either way she must confront her past with a qualified therapist.<\/p>\n

Wishing you and your daughter all my best for a safe journey to wellness.<\/p>\n

Karen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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