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\nComment by KAR MD on 05 Nov 2010 at 5:11 pm<\/span><\/p>\n
I am a fifty two year old male psychologist. I have schooled for twenty years with an MD specializing in Neurology. In my quest to be at my best I have undergone my own intense therapy. I have found my own personal sexual abuse to be an asset to treating my male sexual abuse patients. I would like to know if Richard Baer M.D. has been a victim of sexual abuse himself and if so, did his treatment of you help him overcome his past? Do you believe Dr. Baer to have been a victim of sexual abuse? Has he shared his pain with you? What was it that you sensed in him that was able to understand you? Did you see him, the therapist as an abuse victim? Do you believe Dr. Baer in his treatment with you discover love in himself and for others? As a therapist I would like to learn more of his effort to treat you. I ask with utmost respect for him. I have tried to contact him myself with no success. Much appreciate your response.<\/span><\/p>\n
KAR MD<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Dear Dr. KAR,<\/span><\/p>\n
Thank you for writing to me. \u00a0During my therapy and in the years after treatment ended, Dr. Baer has shared at times that he had to go through his own psychoanalysis as required for all therapists in psychoanalytic training. I’ve respected that he understood the therapy process because he also had to conduct his own therapy. I have on occasion asked Dr. Baer whether he was abused. He’s always said no. I admired Dr. Baer’s ability to be empathetic to my own abuse. There was a time when I thought no one, not even Dr. Baer, could understand my pain unless they too were abused. I once assumed Dr. Baer was abused himself, but realized that I was picking up on something other than abuse. I believe my own abuse was bouncing off the blank wall he presented as my confidant.<\/span><\/p>\n
I’m certain that once abused, an awareness is present that can help one be attuned to others who have been abused. This I know for sure because I am attuned to others this way. I believe those who have been abused have this gift of sensitivity. I can sense with near perfect accuracy when someone has been abused or is presently being abused, and can identify those who are the abusers. A gift? I’m not sure, but being attuned does raise many red flags within me and triggers my past thoughts of once being a victim myself. <\/span><\/p>\n
During my therapy with Dr. Baer, he rarely shared anything about himself personally, but when he did, it was in an effort to help me feel at ease in order to help me understand what happened to me. Therapy is an intimate journey and stories are shared between therapist and patient to bring a sense of calm. I believe with my whole being that Dr. Baer became a better man for treating me. If he had any issues, he did not share them with me, but being attuned to him, I knew more than he thought. We both grew in knowledge from sharing.<\/span><\/p>\n
I’m sorry you were unable to contact Dr. Baer. \u00a0You can find him on Facebook. I appreciate that you respect his work with me.<\/span><\/p>\n
Thank you! Wishing you all my best for success!<\/span><\/p>\n
Karen<\/span><\/p>\n
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