{"id":2651,"date":"2011-06-26T20:44:47","date_gmt":"2011-06-27T01:44:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=2651"},"modified":"2011-06-29T12:17:50","modified_gmt":"2011-06-29T17:17:50","slug":"karen-answers-paul-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=2651","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Paul"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>Comment by Paul on 01 Feb 2011 at 5:13 pm<\/p>\n<p>Hi Karen,<\/p>\n<p>I am in shock that you survived such horror. How did you manage life\u2019s ups and downs with carrying so much sadness? What makes you, you? What can you share to help me shed anger for ordinary things? I have a lot of unresolved issues from being sexually abused when I was thirteen.<\/p>\n<p>Paul<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Dear Paul,<\/p>\n<p>Interesting question. In order to survive childhood horror, you must first acknowledge it, then come to terms with understanding that your pain belongs in the past, and finally, let it be known that you would not tolerate the same type of abuse ever again. My abusers have all passed on.<\/p>\n<p>I admit my anger was a bit more repressed than most, but I had alter help. If I had to deal with so much sadness on my own, without fragmenting my pain, I would most likely be an angry person unable to resolve ordinary things. But I believe in you. Have faith. I always feared I would some day explode, but when feeling such anger, I would try my best to think, &#8220;Where did it come from? What triggered such anger? Was it something I did? Did someone hurt my feelings? Did I feel neglected, rejected, or humiliated?&#8221; \u00a0I believe most likely my personal anger triggers are past dark thoughts or feelings. Once I recognized what caused me to feel rage, my anger would start to subside. Anger can be a good learning experience if you can keep it to yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Please seek counseling for yourself with a qualified therapist. I know my advice isn&#8217;t a quick fix; it takes time to heal. Be patient, and you, too, can accomplish healing.<\/p>\n<p>Karen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Comment by Paul on 01 Feb 2011 at 5:13 pm Hi Karen, I am in shock that you survived such horror. How did you manage life\u2019s ups and downs with carrying so much sadness? What makes you, you? What can you share to help me shed anger for ordinary things? I have a lot of [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2651","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-karens-answers"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2651","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2651"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2651\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2661,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2651\/revisions\/2661"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2651"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2651"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2651"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}