{"id":2709,"date":"2011-09-11T21:54:44","date_gmt":"2011-09-12T02:54:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=2709"},"modified":"2011-09-11T21:54:44","modified_gmt":"2011-09-12T02:54:44","slug":"karen-answers-mik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=2709","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Mik"},"content":{"rendered":"

Comment by Mik on 11 Apr 2011 at 12:52 pm<\/p>\n

Karen,<\/p>\n

I have many times in my youth that I have been told that I\u2019ve done or said something but I dont\u2019 recall any of those situations. I don\u2019t know if what I\u2019ve experienced in my life could cause this to happen or not. I have a hard time talking to peaple from my past\/when growing up because I feel like I need to apologize to them all in case I may have said or done something to them. My father killed himself when I was 7 and I carried around the burden that I caused him to do it but I know that I didn\u2019t. I only know things of my childhood based off of stories that I have been told. Sometimes when I hear music I can recall certain situations but\u2026<\/p>\n

Could this be something more?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Dear Mik,<\/p>\n

It could be something more, but only someone more qualified than I can help you to find out. I dissociated many moments and felt the need to apologize time and again for unknown things. Guilt of the unknown kept me in dark thoughts and feeling depressed. I assume those feelings came from losing a part of me, and the grief that came from that loss.<\/p>\n

I’m sorry that you lost your father to suicide. \u00a0He must have been deeply troubled and felt hopeless. Being a child of seven years is too young to comprehend what led to your father taking his life. I am not a therapist and can’t give advice, but I can share that therapy can help you sort out all that is troubling you, including causing you to lose time or not remember. Lost memory could be a coping mechanism and a protective shield. Maybe in the safety of meeting with a qualified therapist you can discover these underlying emotions, acknowledge them, and begin your healing journey.<\/p>\n

Please know that hearing music that reminds you of a past memory is a trigger. It may be that you are ready to seek help and start your own healing journey. That’s how I started mine. When certain triggers made me aware that something was not right, I knew I needed help. I knew my apologetic nature was coming from my past. In therapy I discovered not only what hurt me, but who I was meant to be.<\/p>\n

I have faith in you. Wishing you all my best as your journey begins to unfold.<\/p>\n

Karen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Comment by Mik on 11 Apr 2011 at 12:52 pm Karen, I have many times in my youth that I have been told that I\u2019ve done or said something but I dont\u2019 recall any of those situations. I don\u2019t know if what I\u2019ve experienced in my life could cause this to happen or not. I […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2709","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-karens-answers"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2709","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2709"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2709\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2710,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2709\/revisions\/2710"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2709"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2709"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2709"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}