{"id":2912,"date":"2012-03-08T23:01:07","date_gmt":"2012-03-09T04:01:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=2912"},"modified":"2012-03-08T23:01:07","modified_gmt":"2012-03-09T04:01:07","slug":"karen-answers-bendito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=2912","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Bendito"},"content":{"rendered":"

Comment by Bendito on 16 Feb 2012 at 4:09 pm<\/p>\n

Hi karen.<\/p>\n

I finished reading your book and my question is do you think you were addicted to abuse? When you went from being an abuse ridden child to an abused wife did it seems that being abused was a comfort to you or was there another reason you think you found yourself yet again in a similar scenario?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Dear Bendito,<\/p>\n

No. I do not think I am or was ever addicted to abuse. My relationship with my husband was once wonderful. My being abused by my husband came many years into our marriage after I became ill and he turned to alcohol to console himself. As his alcohol consumption increased he became verbally abusive first, then when that didn’t seem to affect me, he turned to physically abusing me. When my husband was not under the influence of alcohol he was kind, funny, supportive, and a pleasure to be around. When I met my husband, he appeared to be totally opposite of my father. That’s what attracted me to him. I never felt my husband would abuse me. Sadly, chaos and my illness caused pain that he could not deal with, so he changed. He had a choice and made the wrong one. He never sought help for himself.<\/p>\n

Please know that as a once victim I tried my best to search for someone not abusive, but sometimes it’s hard to spot a wolf in sheep\u2019s clothing.<\/p>\n

Thank you for your question,<\/p>\n

Karen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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