Comment by Priscilla on November 11, 2008 9:56 pm<\/a><\/span><\/p>\nHi Karen,<\/span><\/p>\nI bought your book and gave it to my friend who is dying of cancer. I didn<\/span>\u02bc<\/span>t read it first. Oh how I wish I did. I didn<\/span>\u02bc<\/span>t want her to cry. I apologized and she told me your story had made her feel peaceful with her own past. I was shocked and took her copy to read it for myself. I can see why.<\/span><\/p>\nCan you recommend what I could say to my dying loved one, Catherine, who had suffered from child abuse and depression most of her life? In her final days of unsuccessful cancer treatment what can I say to help her? She<\/span>\u02bc<\/span>s has two to three months top?<\/span><\/p>\nMuch obliged,<\/span><\/p>\nPriscilla<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\nDear Priscilla,<\/span><\/p>\nI’m glad that giving your friend Switching Time turned out to be a nice thing to do. <\/span>I can understand how you and she may have found my story interesting. <\/span>I believe your intentions were in the right place. <\/span>You knew Catherine suffered from past abuse and bought a book you believed would help her. <\/span>I am glad that you read my story, too. <\/span>This not only brought your friend peace, but you were able to understand the peace she spoke of. <\/span>Finding peace in one’s final days is what we all hope for.<\/span><\/p>\nI know final conversations with loved ones are not an easy thing to do. <\/span>If Catherine were my friend, I would be myself, sometimes talk, sometimes not, sit with her, and tell her about my day or what I’ve done. <\/span>I’d read to her, tell her I love her, and sit and hold her hand. <\/span>Allow her to speak about anything; she may just need to talk. <\/span><\/p>\nThis could be the time to remind her of all wonderful things she’s done. <\/span>Sharing memories might be helpful in putting her life into perspective. <\/span>Say all that you want to say now, while there’s time, and enjoy your time together. <\/span>This way, your loved one will know she’s not alone. <\/span>Cherish every moment.<\/span><\/p>\nI wish you and your friend Catherine peace at this difficult time. <\/span><\/p>\nKaren<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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