Comment by Cassie on December 18, 2008 4:28 am <\/a><\/p>\nHi Karen,<\/p>\n
Despite integration what was the hardest part of therapy? \u00a0I cant stand my<\/p>\n
therapist, he makes me ill, he thinks he?s the most handsome man on earth..<\/p>\n
I’ve had three previous male therapists, all think they are great, why are<\/p>\n
most male therapists so stuck up? \u00a0How did you get past the attitude? \u00a0I know<\/p>\n
there had to be an attitude with Dr. Baer because he shows it in the book. \u00a0I<\/p>\n
feel sorry for what you had to deal with.<\/p>\n
Cassie<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Dear Cassie,<\/p>\n
For me, the hardest part of therapy was sharing my pain. I never wanted to\u00a0tell what happened to me. During the first few years of therapy I had the fear\u00a0that at any moment Dr. Baer would become disgusted with me and tell me to leave.\u00a0 <\/span>I worried I was too much for anyone. I had never shared my past before and believed no one could handle hearing about it. I believed no one else should hurt because of my pain, especially Dr. Baer, who listened time and again to the details as I shared them in therapy.\u00a0 <\/span>It’s because of this fear that it took me years before I built trust and knew Dr. Baer wasn’t going to give up on me.<\/p>\nI can understand you picking up on the arrogance of your male therapists. I,\u00a0too, felt this way about Dr. Baer early in therapy. Although my feelings may\u00a0very well have come from the anger I felt towards the men who once abused me and not Dr. Baer.\u00a0 <\/span>I believe this is called transference. I don’t believe Dr. Baer was stuck up but I do believe he exuded confidence, and it’s because he appeared secure and stable that I chose him to accompany me on my journey. Dr. Baer is a handsome man, but it was his confidence that made him handsome to me and not particularly his looks.\u00a0 <\/span>I believe it’s what’s within you that defines your appearance.<\/p>\nAs far as getting over Dr. Baer’s attitude, there’s nothing to get over.\u00a0 <\/span>He is who he is, and he has been there for me through thick and thin.\u00a0 <\/span>When I didn’t want to live, he unconditionally cared for me when no one else could. Dr. Baer is my mentor, my confidant, my trusted friend, and we share a special bond.<\/p>\nThere’s no need to feel sorry for me, I had the most amazing luck in finding the right therapist. I surely would’ve given up long ago if it weren’t for Dr. Baer’s help. I hope you find a way to have success with your therapist.<\/p>\n
Thank you for your questions,<\/p>\n
Karen<\/p>\n
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