{"id":601,"date":"2009-01-09T02:47:23","date_gmt":"2009-01-09T02:47:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/switchingtime.wordpress.com\/?p=601"},"modified":"2009-01-09T02:47:23","modified_gmt":"2009-01-09T02:47:23","slug":"karen-answers-elvira","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=601","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Elvira"},"content":{"rendered":"

Comment by Elvira on January 6, 2009 3:18 pm<\/a><\/p>\n

Hi Karen,<\/p>\n

Dates, do you remember all dates like Claire\u02bcs date of abuse? \u00a0Today marks the 45th.anniversary of the day my father raped me at eight years old. I never forget this stupid date. What happened long ago tortures me till now. I am 53 years old tomorrow 7 Jan. I thought you may be helpful in sharing your secret of forgetting dates or how you get past the dates of pain. I am inspired by you. I never set foot in a therapists office. It\u02bcs to late for me but so many woman ache like me and you. What do you do with the dates?<\/p>\n

Elvira<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Dear Elvira,<\/p>\n

Of course I remember some dates; it’s hard not to! \u00a0There are dates that trigger a memory of my past, such as Halloween, but I try to let these dates go. On the anniversary of any particular day that I suffered traumatic abuse there may be a few seconds of dark thoughts that trigger a dark memory, but I always try my best to remove these thoughts and move onto something more pleasant. \u00a0I refuse to dwell on the past anymore. \u00a0Why should any of us give power to an abuser because of a memory of being abused? \u00a0It will only bring us down. \u00a0I believe in remembering dates of accomplishments. \u00a0It’s these that are to be recognized and celebrated.<\/p>\n

I can understand how the date you can never forget resurfaces over and over again. If I were you, I would try to do something different or fun on that date to begin to replace the old memory with a new, fresh one. I have fought hard to do this myself and it seems to work most of the time. \u00a0It is possible. Please don’t give up.<\/p>\n

May I suggest you seek some professional advice? \u00a0It’s never, ever, too late to seek help! \u00a0Please do! \u00a0It’s very important to gain a sense of closure for yourself. \u00a0Whatever it takes to rid these memories that torture must come from within you. You can accomplish peace, with help, and letting go.<\/p>\n

Wishing you a safe journey,<\/p>\n

Karen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Comment by Elvira on January 6, 2009 3:18 pm Hi Karen, Dates, do you remember all dates like Claire\u02bcs date of abuse? \u00a0Today marks the 45th.anniversary of the day my father raped me at eight years old. I never forget this stupid date. What happened long ago tortures me till now. I am 53 years […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-601","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-karens-answers"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/601","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=601"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/601\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=601"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=601"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=601"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}