{"id":624,"date":"2009-01-19T22:03:20","date_gmt":"2009-01-19T22:03:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/switchingtime.wordpress.com\/?p=624"},"modified":"2009-01-19T22:03:20","modified_gmt":"2009-01-19T22:03:20","slug":"karen-answers-connor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=624","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Connor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Comment by Connor on January 15, 2009 8:34 pm<\/a><\/p>\n

Did any of your alters ever cause you to be arrested? \u00a0I am a person with seven alters and one of them has recently become a serious problem. I don\u2019t know what to do. We are all in therapy and Beau, an alter of mine, keeps starting fights everytime he\u2019s out. My psychologist bailed me out of jail twice. It\u2019s so emnbarassing and hard for me to accept. I\u2019d do anything to stop this alter, including die. What would your therapist do? Did this ever happen to you with your alters Miles, Karl or other?<\/p>\n

Connor,\u00a0host of seven<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Dear Connor,<\/p>\n

I’m sorry to hear that one of your alters is causing you serious problems at this time. None of my alters ever caused me to be arrested, but there were many times I felt as if I would. I was always afraid I’d done something wrong, even though I hadn’t. It’s sad that one of your alters, Beau, feels so threatened that he causes an outburst that leads to you being arrested. \u00a0I am not a therapist, but in my opinion, your alter, Beau, must be suffering, needs attention, feels threatened or hurt, and needs to talk. \u00a0I believe that your therapist may be able to help by talking to Beau about his anger, instead of waiting to bail you out of jail after he acts out.<\/p>\n

I can empathize with you wanting to stop Beau from causing more grief, but dying is not the answer. \u00a0I admit, there were many times when my ex-alters threatened to take action. \u00a0I was lucky Dr. Baer knew how to diffuse them. \u00a0Whenever I sensed stress building, I knew I needed to call my therapist. \u00a0Sometimes Dr. Baer would put me under hypnosis and talk to my distressed and angry alter, and that seemed to work. I believe once the trauma or aggravation felt by the alter is discussed, the acting out doesn’t come into play. During therapy Dr. Baer always told me, “Thoughts are okay, acting out is not.” \u00a0My alters were born to protect me, not bring me harm.<\/p>\n

Thank you for your questions. \u00a0I wish you well as you continue your journey towards healing.<\/p>\n

Karen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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