{"id":656,"date":"2009-02-03T02:51:43","date_gmt":"2009-02-03T02:51:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/switchingtime.wordpress.com\/?p=656"},"modified":"2009-02-03T02:51:43","modified_gmt":"2009-02-03T02:51:43","slug":"karen-answers-peggy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=656","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Peggy"},"content":{"rendered":"

Comment by Peggy on January 31, 2009 3:24 am<\/a><\/p>\n

Dear Karen,<\/p>\n

If what happened to you happened these days what would you have done different? Do you think you would still have alternate personalities?<\/p>\n

Your story shattered my perception of abuse. I assumed those who were abused asked to be abused. I assumed child abuse was a form of discipline.<\/p>\n

Peggy<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Dear Peggy,<\/p>\n

It’s true, times have changed, but being abused has not. I’m not sure how I, as a child, would’ve reacted under the same circumstances these days. \u00a0I believe things may have been different because today there is more awareness of child abuse through knowledge, education in schools, in the media, and bringing cases to light. Back when I was a child, out of shame, not much was discussed about what went on behind the closed doors of one’s home. Children feared telling secrets for fear of more abuse, or possibly even death.<\/p>\n

I attended Catholic school, and never once did anyone help me. No one wished to get involved. \u00a0So they ignored obvious signs that something was terribly wrong with me. \u00a0I believe that ignorance was a large part of this, people not knowing what to do. \u00a0Or, thinking if you ignore it, it will go away. \u00a0Afterall, as in my case, I dissociated and didn’t appear to be a abused at times, and this must’ve caused confusion to those who suspected anything. I’ll never know. \u00a0I believe most people may have suspected something and thought, “she looks okay now,” and then let it go.<\/p>\n

I’m not sure if my mind would’ve created alternate personalities today. \u00a0The fear and pain that created my alters in the first place can still happen in today’s world. \u00a0Today, I believe most people who suspect a child is being abused will do something about it. The silence has been broken. People talk.<\/p>\n

Remember, \u00a0multiplicity is not something you are born with. \u00a0It is acquired from repeated trauma caused from severe child abuse. If I knew as a child what I know today, despite being threatened into silence, I would’ve kept talking until someone took me seriously and helped me. There was always proof close at hand if one knew where to look.<\/p>\n

No child wants to be abused, asks to be abused, or deserves to be abused. \u00a0I am glad Switching Time<\/em> has changed your thoughts on this. \u00a0Discipline is an inappropriate excuse to abuse a child, it’s sickening and devastates a child’s entire life.<\/p>\n

Thank you for your questions, and especially for coming to a better understanding of the tragedy of being a victim of child abuse.<\/p>\n

Karen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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