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Comment by Jen on 08 April 2009 at 11:23 am<\/p>\n

What ever happened to your brothers? Did they know about the abuse? Did you ever discuss it with your family.<\/p>\n

I just finished the book and I\u2019m starting all over again. How facinating your life is. Most people would have never survived the abuse, and you found a way to cope. Sounds to me like an easier way to cope with life than most people are capable of. I\u2019m just so engrossed in this.<\/p>\n

Jen<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Dear Jen,<\/p>\n

My brothers are doing well, and yes, they knew that I was abused. However, I had never shared the details with them. My brothers were younger than me and my need to protect them prevented me from revealing what I felt they shouldn’t know. My brothers were abused, too, not in a sexual way but definitely physically and emotionally. \u00a0As children, my brothers and I were terrified of our father. We feared setting him off and prayed that he would fall asleep after dinner so that we could be at peace. \u00a0We always wished him dead.<\/p>\n

Whenever our father was alone with us he was angry, lashed out, and beat us for the slightest wrongs, such as not washing one fork or forgetting to make him ice tea. There was no way to know what we would be beaten for. We tried to be as perfect as we could be, hoping that my father might be nicer to us if we were, but that was something that never happened. When my mother was home, there was a lot of arguing between them, but less abuse from the hands of our father.<\/p>\n

My brothers and I coped in different ways. I dissociated and became a multiple, one brother spent most of his time in sports in an effort to stay away from home, and the other spent most of his time alone, building models and tuning out the world.<\/p>\n

Thank you for sharing that you are re-reading Switching Time. I appreciate your encouraging words regarding my surviving abuse and my ability to cope, however, please know that it’s never been easy and it all came with many consequences. There are days when I struggle. The difference is that now I know and understand where I came from and try my best to deal with it logically. It doesn’t always work, but I do try my best.<\/p>\n

Multiplicity continues to me a mystery to me. I may have survived it but there is so much left to learn. It is my hope the medical world continues to research multiplicity. For it is real, just as I am real.<\/p>\n

Karen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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