{"id":937,"date":"2009-04-25T13:10:54","date_gmt":"2009-04-25T18:10:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=937"},"modified":"2009-04-25T13:10:54","modified_gmt":"2009-04-25T18:10:54","slug":"karen-answers-niki","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/?p=937","title":{"rendered":"Karen answers Niki"},"content":{"rendered":"

Comment by Niki on 24 Apr 2009 at 7:35 am<\/p>\n

Hello Karen,<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not asking these questions at all to offend you. So if they are too personal or you don\u2019t want to answer that is fine.<\/p>\n

Do you still have any \u2018alters\u2019?<\/p>\n

Do your children know that you had MPD?<\/p>\n

Or do they just know now after you have gotten help?<\/p>\n

Did your mother find out about all that has happened to you and what you was diagnosed with MPD?<\/p>\n

Do you have a good relationship with your mother now?<\/p>\n

I hope my questions are alright. I can hardly wait to hear back from you. I hope your day has been wonder.<\/p>\n

Niki<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Dear Niki,<\/p>\n

I don’t mind answering your questions. I believe we all learn from each other, and I feel privledged to have been asked.<\/p>\n

My alters all merged within me during the integration process. \u00a0I am one woman now, with a variety of interests that have come from each of my seventeen alters. \u00a0However, being blended, not one of my alters remains in their original form. \u00a0Think of the alters as puzzle pieces. \u00a0Alone, each piece is one piece of the puzzle, but put all the pieces together, and you have the complete picture.<\/p>\n

My children always knew that something was up. I have always acted the same with them. I am their Mom. My children knew I suffered from many headaches and was ill at times, but they weren’t aware of the individual alters by name. My alters were created to protect me and to keep my life functioning as normal as possible. Each of my alters answered to “Mom” and acted for my children’s safety.<\/p>\n

My children have read my story and now it all makes sense to them. They are able to understand why I was the way I was, and they accept me as I am.<\/p>\n

My mother knew I was being abused and that I lost time. She blamed it on other things, such as my needing attention or having a brain tumor. \u00a0She never fully acknowledged knowing I was abused. Recently, in the last few years, my mother has slipped and revealed memories that proved she knew. \u00a0For me, her “slips” are closure. \u00a0Now that my mother is in her seventies I don’t bring up the past. My father passed away fifteen years ago, and all my other abusers are deceased.<\/p>\n

My mother and I continue to maintain a relationship, we just never engage in deep conversation. I drive her to the store, we have coffee and chat. \u00a0She doesn’t know me, nor does she know that I have written my story. \u00a0I have forgiven my mother. \u00a0I believe she really is unable to comprehend the true depth of the pain she caused by not paying attention to the signs of my abuse. \u00a0That is why I share my story, to bring awareness of child abuse<\/p>\n

Karen<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Comment by Niki on 24 Apr 2009 at 7:35 am Hello Karen, I\u2019m not asking these questions at all to offend you. So if they are too personal or you don\u2019t want to answer that is fine. Do you still have any \u2018alters\u2019? Do your children know that you had MPD? Or do they just […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-937","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-karens-answers"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/937","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=937"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/937\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":939,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/937\/revisions\/939"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=937"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=937"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.switchingtime.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=937"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}