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\nComment by Marquerite\u00a0on 13 May 2009 at 5:54 pm <\/span><\/em>\u2028<\/span><\/p>\n
During your process to integrate your alters were you working a full time job. If you were did you find the trauma of integration exhausting enough to need time off? What did your employeer say when you told him of your condition? How did you spouse deal with your process? your kids?<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Dear Marguerite,<\/span><\/p>\n
Most of the years during my therapy\u00a0were spent on disabilty for medical\u00a0reasons in addition to my multiplicity. \u00a0Due to\u00a0an incident at the birth of my daughter,\u00a0my alters re-grouped and came out full force in order to help me survive the trauma I experienced during the cesarean section. \u00a0I share this story\u00a0in the Prologue of our book, Switching Time.<\/span><\/p>\n
My cesarean section didn’t quite go smoothly and left me\u00a0temporarily traumatized with pain that resulted in my need for\u00a0nine surgeries. \u00a0During the first two years after my daughters birth I was often hospitalized for one thing or another. \u00a0It was at this time my alter’s resurfaced. Remember,\u00a0alters are created to help one survive, and I needed help.<\/span><\/p>\n
I\u00a0did my best to heal and get back to my full-time position as an administrative assistant in a large company. \u00a0Although ill, dissociating my pain helped. \u00a0I went back to work within\u00a0four months and continued to work until my daughter’s first birthday when I couldn’t hide from the fact that I was not only in constant, disabling pain, but was losing time\u00a0and not recalling large parts of my day. \u00a0My work always got done, the only problem was I couldn’t say how. \u00a0That’s when I knew my losing time was more than simple forgetfulness.<\/span><\/p>\n
I never told my employer that I lost time, but I decided to quit. \u00a0I informed my employer I was\u00a0planning to go back to school\u00a0and be full-time mom to my one year old daughter and three year old son. I was ashamed and unable to explain how the excellent quality of my work got done, on time, but out of my awareness. \u00a0As I received awards for work that an alter did, I became depressed. I was really afraid that I’d soon be discovered, and I more or less fled before I was.<\/span><\/p>\n
During the eighteen months\u00a0of\u00a0integrations, my job was as a full time mom, part time\u00a0night cashier at a drug store, and volunteer for many community and my children’s activities. \u00a0I rarely slept, and with active alters, I kept busy even though I was emotionally exhausted all the time. \u00a0My husband supported my decision to stay home and raise our children. \u00a0He actually wanted me to stop working\u00a0after my first child was born, before my daughter’s birth and subsequent alter chaos. \u00a0I had maintained a great paying job for ten years. \u00a0However, losing time would not allow me to function at my best. \u00a0Sure, I was able to wear a mask and get things done, but\u00a0not in an appropriate way.<\/span><\/p>\n
Thank you for your thought provoking question.<\/span><\/p>\n
Karen<\/span><\/p>\n
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