Karen answers Carole

Richard Baer on Jun 5th 2009

Comment by Carole on 31 May 2009 at 9:14 pm
Hi Karen,
Thank you for inspiring me. I have fought a hard battle after being sexually abused. I am not a patient of any therapist but at times thought of getting help for myself. I never created alters like you but I know I did dissociated the abuse I received. Since I dissociate some of the abuse, what happens to the memory erased? I read your answer about not feeling good enough. I feel not good enough. I want to know what you do when you feel so low that you want to die. What keeps you alive?
I like you very much. Good Luck forever. have a nice life.
Carole
Dear Carole,
 
I’m sorry to hear that you were sexually abused.  It is a hard battle to overcome.  I continue to struggle at times, too!   Dissociation comes in many forms, in my case I became a multiple, but not all abused children develop alternate personalities.
 
I understand not feeling good enough because of early sexual abuse.  Certain things will trigger my feeling that way.  It’s hard to say how I will react at any given time.  When I feel frustrated, betrayed, or taken advantage of,  I will also feel not good enough and not respected.  Sometimes people take me for granted, ignore me, and dismiss what’s important to me. 
 
I have always thought I was staying alive hoping to feel loved, and to feel loved was the most important feeling I needed in order to live. 
 
Thank you for your compliments,
Karen

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