Karen answers Carole
Richard Baer on Jun 5th 2009
Comment by Carole on 31 May 2009 at 9:14 pmHi Karen,Thank you for inspiring me. I have fought a hard battle after being sexually abused. I am not a patient of any therapist but at times thought of getting help for myself. I never created alters like you but I know I did dissociated the abuse I received. Since I dissociate some of the abuse, what happens to the memory erased? I read your answer about not feeling good enough. I feel not good enough. I want to know what you do when you feel so low that you want to die. What keeps you alive?I like you very much. Good Luck forever. have a nice life.Carole
Dear Carole,
I’m sorry to hear that you were sexually abused. It is a hard battle to overcome. I continue to struggle at times, too! Dissociation comes in many forms, in my case I became a multiple, but not all abused children develop alternate personalities.
I understand not feeling good enough because of early sexual abuse. Certain things will trigger my feeling that way. It’s hard to say how I will react at any given time. When I feel frustrated, betrayed, or taken advantage of, I will also feel not good enough and not respected. Sometimes people take me for granted, ignore me, and dismiss what’s important to me.
I have always thought I was staying alive hoping to feel loved, and to feel loved was the most important feeling I needed in order to live.
Thank you for your compliments,
Karen