Bridget on Questions for Karen: “Hi Karen, I just got done reading your book. I was told that there was possibly a sequel that had…” Sep 20, 18:26Karen answers Gillian
Richard Baer on Jun 18th 2009
Comment by Gillian on 14 Jun 2009 at 11:52 amDon’t stop believing in yourself. I almost did. Instead at my worst moment I picked up your book and decided it would be just what I needed to finally suicide. I couldn’t put your book aside until I read it all. I changed my mind tonight thanks for saving my life even when you don’t know me. I figured it this way if you can live after all you went through I should be able to live with the nothings that I want to suicide over. My grief comes from hurting so badly afer my husband told me he never loved me. My husband is gay and just wanted me for his wife as a cover so that no one would suspect anything other than a normal couple. I was at the point of believing I was unloveable when I read ST. Thank you again for allowing people like me into your life to see things can’t be that bad..Thank you. I will find a therapist to talk to on Monday.Gillian, South Dakota
Dear Gillian,
Thank you for your encouraging words. I’m glad that Switching Time helped with your decision to continue on and not suicide. I am glad that there was something in my story that brought you out of your despair. Please don’t let your dark thoughts go without proper care. It’s important to talk through what you have experienced with a trained therapist.
There are still days when I struggle to get through. What’s important for me is to take a few deep breaths and allow myself space until those dark thoughts pass. What appeared to be so troubling and devastating usually winds up being a temporary setback. Once I realize this I’m usually ready to face the day.
I empathize with your pain from being told that you are not loved. I’m sorry that your husband hurt you in that way. I would’ve felt devastated, too. Please remember that your husband betraying your trust had nothing to do with you being unloveable. Not your fault. It was his choice. I’m not a therapist, but In my opinion your husband took advantage of you to cover up his homosexuality until he decided to come out. What a selfish act on his part.
I’m so glad to hear that you chose to seek help and find a therapist. I wish you all my best for a safe journey to rediscovering your beautiful self.
Take care.
Karen