Bridget on Questions for Karen: “Hi Karen, I just got done reading your book. I was told that there was possibly a sequel that had…” Sep 20, 18:26Karen answers Luiza
Richard Baer on Jun 25th 2009
Comment by Luiza on 21 Jun 2009 at 3:21 pmHi Karen,
I read your book last year and it really upset me. I was also raised in a home that was at times abusive. It wasn’t that bad I guees because if things got bad I would just sort of space out. I wasn’t really there. I’ve asked my psychology teacher about it and he says he doesn’t know what that could be. I still do and I’m scared there’s a problem. I know it would probably be helpful to go see a mental health professional but I can’t because they (my family) will want to get involved. They don’t want me to tell. I am 18 and still live at home. I feel like a child who can’t take care of herself. Sometimes I feel like a parasite. It’s just all too much. The depression and everything else. Nobody knows except for one friend. He is also a broken person. My question is, do you think it would be easier to just end it all or do you think I should go and try to see someone.. If at all possible and only if you want to, could you please send me an email at I don’t really have anyone I can tell.
Dear Luiza,
Thank you for sharing with me. I can understand how reading Switching Time disturbed you. It is a story that touches every nerve of anyone who has suffered from being abused. I’m sorry that you grew up in a home that was sometimes abusive. Please don’t take that lightly. Abuse is abuse. And it upset and affected you to the point that you spaced out. I am not a therapist, but in my opinion you sound like you still carry the pain of that abuse with you. If you feel frightened that you might hurt yourself, then yes, please seek help soon.
I’m glad to hear that you tried to share your concerns with your psychology teacher. Remember, your teacher is your teacher, not your therapist, and may not be prepared to help anyone who may or may not suffer from a dissociative disorder. I believe your teacher may have wanted to help but lacked the expertise to do so.
I’m sure a therapist can help you. It’s hard work, that I know. Finding the right therapist to accompany you on your journey is not only possible, but an important first step. Most importantly, a therapist must keep confidentiality. It’s the therapist’s job not to share any information about you, with anyone, without a signed release from you. That includes your parents! Make these concerns known to your therapist.
Once you become ready to share, you will, and in your own time. Please be cautious with who you decide to share with. Choose those who will support you, not harm you.
I understand what your are going through. I hear your pain through your written words, and I’m glad you chose to reach out and share with me.
Please know that I care. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Karen