Dear Lucy,

I’m sorry to hear that you were abused, but I am glad to hear that you feel you have turned out nice.  I understand the price of being nice. It wears on you, especially when you’re unable to vent your underlying anger in an appropriate, safe way. My story seems to have triggered the memories and feelings of many who have been abused.  I believe that it’s best to deal with what has happened than to suppress dark thoughts.

There are many men and women who have suffered abuse.  It may seem that multiplicity is a wonderful way to cope from abuse, but it is not.  It wasn’t easy not knowing what happened each a day, where you’ve been and who you’ve spent time with.  It’s not something I ever felt good about.  I always felt lost, inadequate, and alone in a world I never understood.  I felt like I lived a nightmare every day. Recalling my past was horrific yet necessary in order to heal.  Therapy was needed for me to grow, feel nurtured, and gain the strength I needed to make a difference in my life.  Therapy saved me and I do not regret it.

I’m glad to hear that you are seeking help now that you’ve become aware of the need to.  It’s important to take care of yourself.  A qualified therapist won’t judge you. There is no need to share your therapy with anyone else.  I didn’t.  Please seek help.

Karen