Comment by L on 18 Aug 2009 at 5:55 am

Hey Karen,

Thank you so much for being there. It truly means a lot to me.

Have you ever had somebody lie to you for months and make you think like they actually give a shit about you and then completely cut you off for no reason?

That’s what he did. He’s just like everybody else he just lies more. I really hate him. I hope that someone does the same the thing to him someday. I want him to feel as bad as I feel right now. It makes me mad to think of him laughing at me. I do have some nice people in my life, but it’s going to take a while for me to trust. I trusted him and he completely shattered it.

Hope all is well with you.

Dear L,

I’m sorry that you have been hurt. Yes, I’ve had someone lie to me. I understand how hurt you feel; I’ve been there, too!  It’s paralyzing, uncalled for, and leaves you shattered.

It’s so hard to trust, especially once your trust has been broken time and again. I continue to have a difficult time with trust.  But when I finally find someone I can trust, it feels good, and is a great accomplishment for me.  Through therapy with Dr. Baer, I learned about trust.  Trust can be the most beautiful feeling in a relationship.  I hope you find someone one day you can trust again. Please give yourself time to heal.

I know you want him to feel as bad as you do.  Just remember not to say something that you may regret later. Step back, take a deep breath, and breathe until those dark thoughts pass. Then you may have a better vision of all that’s happened.  Sometimes, when feeling hurt, bigger and more regretful mistakes follow.  See him for who he is.  You are special and need to be respected.  I’ve made mistakes on this myself, but I do try my best.

I understand your pain.  Let’s hope you have a better day…

Wishing you all my best,

Karen