Comment by K3 on 24 Aug 2009 at 8:03 pm

hae bee told many times over the years tat i should write a book ofmy experiences. I have the story, just ned someone to write it. Our abuse, the foster homes, girls home, the unbelievable adventues. How does one get started?

Dear K3,

I believe you can do whatever you want to do, including write your own story.  Keep writing and one day all those journals and written words will start forming into a book. When you are ready, and feel that you can move forward, it will happen.  Writing a book takes time and patience and many years of writing.  It’s hard work but very healing. Sounds like you have much to write about.  I would begin today.  Allow your thoughts to flow, worry about the details later.

I write everyday.  Some days I may have a few posted notes with words scribbled on them to trigger a thought or memory that I can go back and write about at a later time. Usually my written words trigger what I want to write about and that works for me.  It’s important to keep it up.

Being a multiple, as I once was, is an asset.  We never forget a memory or anything said; all is simply fragmented until integration.  As in a puzzle with many pieces that will fit together form one whole beautiful piece.  Save each note written by your alters.  Don’t look back and try to analyze anything you have written at this time, just simply keep writing.

During my years of therapy, writing saved my life.  I would vent on paper, never reading what I had written.  I put my pages in an envelope, stamped it and mailed it off to Dr. Baer.  I’d feel relieved, as if I just sent my pain away.  I also journaled everyday.  So keep on writing all those horrible thoughts, mixed feelings, and blessings.  I believe writing will help with your healing.

Wishing you all my best, and looking forward to hearing more as you write your story.

Karen