Comment by Kim on 24 Oct 2009 at 8:11 am

how did you get your alters to cooperate? this is a really hard one

Dear Kim,

I didn’t get my alters to co-operate. I believe my alters figured that out on their own every day, although they disagreed among themselves for a long time. In therapy, with Dr. Baer’s help, my alters came to realize they were all on the same side, working to help me, protect me, and provide for what was in my best interest. My alters learned that teamwork was better than alter chaos. All of my alters wanted what was best for me. Therapy provided that atmosphere. If that makes sense to you…

I believe that Dr. Baer’s kind, calm, and even disposition had my alters wanting to be liked by him, so they behaved, in the same way a child longs to seek parental approval. My alters eventually found that therapy was much more helpful if all were getting along. My alters grew to trust and respect Dr. Baer and the job he was doing. Once they understood, they all agreed to work together. My alters were amazing.  They had a unique and supportive job to keep me as safe as possible in the midst of being unable to save me. It’s kind of strange to think about it.

I believe most of my alters, especially the children, wanted to be loved. Time and again they learned that when they spoke calmly and acted responsibly, they had more “out” time with Dr. Baer in therapy and the safety of his office. That meant less stress, anxiety, more quality time, and we were on our way to a successful healing journey to becoming one.

Thank you for your question.

Karen