Comment by Pamela J. on 19 Nov 2009 at 3:23 am

Hi Karen,

I absolutely felt the love grow during your therapy years. I am amazed at how kind you turned out to be. If I was abused like you I would hate the world. What do you think contributed to your lack of hatred towards people in general? In my experience as a social worker I’ve run into many clients who have been wronged, abused, suffering great internal pain and most have issues with anger. In the field of psychiatry many cop an attitude blaming the world even God for their misfortunes. I don’t hear that in your story. What a inspiration you are for sharing. What an inspiration Dr. Baer is for his lifetime effort of treating you. Bless the both of you for making a difference.

Pamela J.

Boise, Idaho

Dear Pamela,

Thank you for being so kind and sharing your thoughts. I believe I can change the world one act of kindness at a time. I am who I am. I believe being kind helped diffuse my abusers. Besides, I was never an angry woman, never an angry child or an angry teen. It’s just not in my nature to be vindictive. I assume my anger turned inward as each alter developed, and by my not wishing to treat others as I was once treated.

Would my expressing anger have made a difference? I don’t believe so. I believe I may have been killed. I always felt my anger intensified any problems and caused more stress. For me, it was important to stay calm while internally experiencing chaos, pain, and abuse. For my own protection my alters knew the importance of my need to be kept in a survivor mode. I was able to let go of angry thoughts by having faith.

I’m glad I never experienced hatred towards people. In my opinion, what goes around, comes around. Those who hurt will eventually be dealt with.

Thank you for your questions,

Karen