Comment by Aimee on 19 Dec 2009 at 10:57 am

Merry Christmas Karen!!!!!! Glad you survived. I was a victim too but after reading your book my life took a change of heart. I was so negative and cruel to people because I never understood my anger was coming from being a rape victim by an uncle. I didn’t know I was so bad until I saw myself in certain parts of your book. I am doing better, smiling more and see things differently. I wish you happiness. I wish you peace. Happy Holidays!

Aimee

Dear Aimee,

Thank you for sharing! There is always a reason for the anger we hold within us. I’m glad you came to realize where your anger was coming from. Many find that their anger is provoked by something horrible that happened to them. I believe anger is fear turned inside out, and that fear is the anger we outwardly express because we don’t understand how to deal with it. It’s like wearing a shield to protect oneself.

I’m sorry to hear that you were abused. You didn’t mention whether you were in therapy. I’m glad that Switching Time provided you with the knowledge that awakened something within you, but realistically, it’s not a self-help book. Please seek a qualified therapist to help you maintain your newfound freedom and awareness of being a victim.

I know from my own experience that memory can be tricky. Sometimes I would feel great, I thought I knew all, and then I’d crash with the weight of my past heavy on my spirit. My pain continues to resurface at times, even after many years of therapy. I always need to take care of myself first. After years in therapy, I learned how to recognize when I need help. You can too.

I encourage you to pay close attention to yourself. And if you start to feel bad, depressed, or become aggressive or angry again, know that you need further help. Wishing you peace as you continue your own journey.

Happy Holiday to you, too!

Karen