Comment by Chloe on 04 Jan 2010 at 10:00 am

Hi Karen,

Picked up your book before classes started and read it. OMG  What a powerful story! Thank you for your bravery in sharing it. It must’ve been difficult to do. How did you react when you read your therapist’s remarks and sarcasm? I would’ve been hurt. You are very brave for allowing so much to be written. But if it helps, do know that I learned so much from you. You are great!

Chloe

Dear Chloe,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and concerns over how well I handled hearing some of Dr. Baer’s doubts and sarcasm. Truthfully, I didn’t handle it well at first. I felt hurt. But I knew that in order for our story to be told, both Dr. Baer and I needed to share our honest thoughts and feelings. I believe we both had a difficult time initially building trust with each other. I admit the initial impact of our story blew me away. And if I had ever thought for a moment that Dr. Baer continued to feel the way he initially did, I would’ve ended my therapeutic relationship with him immediately.

I’m glad Dr. Baer never shared his initial negative thoughts with me. During therapy, Dr. Baer never stressed me, always appeared calm, cared for me unconditionally, and never once gave me reason to think that he didn’t believe in me. I would’ve perceived deceit. Dr. Baer was good at putting aside whatever ill feelings he may have had at times in order to treat me. Maybe that’s the requirement of a good therapist? Maybe that’s why our journey to heal me succeeded?

I’m glad to hear that my story has helped you come to a better understanding of multiplicity. That’s means a lot to both Dr. Baer and me.

Thank you for believing I am brave and for your kind compliments.

Karen