Comment by Betty on 27 Jan 2010 at 9:53 am

hi karen,

when you were in therapy did you ever feel like you were not there. did you feel upset when your alters stole your sessions. i dont feel like i am receiving any help but my therapist says i am doing great. do you understand.

betty

Dear Betty,

Yes, there were many sessions that I felt I wasn’t there, but I was, just not as my own self. My alters did take over many sessions during my healing, but time was shared as it was meant to be.  If my alters never appeared in my sessions I could not have healed. I was fortunate to share my sessions with the other parts of me. Of course, I didn’t always like it. After all, I needed my time with Dr. Baer, too! I would express that to Dr. Baer and he would make sure I had time to talk, too.

Therapy in a multiple’s world must be give and take. The way I thought through those temporary feelings of rejection was to think of the reality of it. If Dr. Baer had given each alter, including me, the same amount of session time, he would have needed to spend over seventeen hours a week with me. A bit far fetched if I do say so myself. Dr. Baer had to treat seventeen different parts of one person: me. An incomprehensible task that required more time than humanly possible. Dr. Baer did his best to always make sure each part of me was heard. I believe he did a great job!

I am not a therapist and can’t give advice, but in my opinion you should share what you have shared with me with your therapist. Tell him how you’re feeling. Ask him to spend a little more time understanding your part in your multiple world. Tell him that you need attention, too!

Wishing you all my best as you continue your journey.

Karen