Comment by Vivienne, one of six on 12 May 2010 at 8:02 pm

Dear Karen,

I haven’t seen your new posts and comments of the board for US of Tara? Do you dislike what you see? Stop watching the show? I am disturbed by parts of the show. I suffer like you did and nothing ever happened to me like on this show. I can’t stand the way my friends assume I am like her when I am not. My friends watch the show because of me. I can’t stand they believe in her more than me. What am I to do? Did you even care about the show? It’s not as good as the first season. Please share once again. I like reading what a true multiple, you, has to say.

Thank you.

Vivienne

Dear Vivienne,

Thank you for noticing. I’ve been a bit busy here on my blog and on Facebook. I just watched eight episodes all on the same day and have formed some thoughts and opinions. I just haven’t shared them on the United States of Tara message board yet. I will soon, but what I can share is that Tara is a character, not real, a multiple played by a remarkable actress, Toni Colette. Though she is performing well, it’s not an accurate display of a true multiple. Sadly, I was hoping for a more factual display, in hope to bring more knowledge to an incomprehensible illness. I admit, there are some parts that can be much like a multiple’s experience, but those few don’t add up to a true multiple. In other words, there’s a whole lot of unnecessary drama.

I understand your dilemma with your friends. They’re simply looking for answers in the wrong place. Maybe reading more about true cases will help them gain the knowledge they require in order to be there for you. I don’t believe they think their opinions hurt and offend you. But you need to share that with them. Share with them what you have shared with me. Tell them you are not “Tara” and that you need them to be your friends without comparing you to an actress. Tell them each multiple is unique and no two share the same experience. Tell your friends that each alter is created to deflect horrific trauma, and that it’s highly unlikely for two to experience the same.

I care about what the show USoT represents. I care about all those who suffer or know of someone who suffers.  I care and believe that it’s important to provide wisdom to know the difference between a true multiple and a fake.

Wishing you all my best!

Karen