Comment by Cherice Kay on 13 May 2010 at 9:30 am

Dear Karen,

WOW! and double WOW, WOW! I just finished reading your book. I am sitting at my desk in shock. I mean really in shock. I feel exhausted but not tired. I had to find you and write to you. I wish you were right in front of me so I could hug you. I have never read a book that caused extreme emotional exhaustion on me. I am going to bed now. I will be cuddling up under my covers and dreaming of the wonderful woman I just finished reading about. Healing. You accomplished it. You healed yourself. Your alter told your therapist how to heal you. WOW, WOW, WOW! Why did you have to pay? You were your own therapist. WOW! Richard Baer was lucky you chose him to help you. Fate is what it’s called. Great team work but Karen you knew you were your own therapist all along, didn’t you? God knows it, too! God has blessed you! Never forget it! Thank you for writing your book through Richard Baer.

Cherice Kay

Dear Cherice Kay,

Thank you for all your compliments and sharing your enthusiasm. I have no words to thank you for all the optimism you shared. But I am touched by your excitement and the challenge my story has given you.

I am proud of my healing, but admit I needed help and it was a gift to have a great therapist who was able to care for me unconditionally for many years. I was fortunate to have been blessed with what I needed: a safe place to express and share my horrific past. Not many could say they had such perfect timing and luck with a therapist. I feel privileged to have found Dr. Baer. He definitely came into my life when I needed help the most.

Though it’s true my alter Holdon gave Dr. Baer an idea about what he believed would help in the process of integration, it was impossible for Holdon to be on the outside looking in while it happened. Dr. Baer was my mentor and coach, and guided the process. I believe healing and integration was possible after years of building rapport between the alters, Dr. Baer and me. It was teamwork at it’s best!

In a way, there is some truth in the idea of healing oneself. That’s what good therapy is… the doctor providing a safe setting, turning himself into a wall for one to bounce and reflect thoughts off of, and a mirror so that we can experience our true uniqueness.

In a way you are correct when you mention I healed myself. I healed myself while Dr. Baer protected me from myself. I was on a collision course. Dr. Baer steered me in the right direction for I was too blind to see.

Thank you for all your compliments!

Karen