Karen answers Susan
Richard Baer on Aug 15th 2010
Comment by Susan on 24 Jun 2010 at 10:11 pm
Hi Karen,
Do you love who you are? love your children? love richard Baer? Love your parents who wronged you? Do you hate anyone? Do you know what love is? How is it possible to know love when hurt so bad? I cant understand. Please elaborate. What about hate? Who do you hate? Help me understand.
Susan
Dear Susan,
I don’t love everyone, but I don’t hate anyone. I think I know what loves is, at least for me. My love comes from faith. That is what is meant to be, God willing. Those who have hurt me sadden me, but I have forgiven them. Hate harbors anger, fear, and mistrust. If I allow myself to hate, I would become ill. And there is no room in my life to feel ill over any relationship that caused me grief. I remove myself now from toxic relationships, pray for those who do wrong, and learn valuable lessons from my experiences.
Hope my answer helps. Thank you for asking!
Karen
I believe that most of us struggle with the concept of love. We came from an environment where trust is betrayed, and trust is so interwoven with love. We don’t feel you can find true intimacy with another without trust, so it stands to reason the confused feelings many of us have related to trying to love someone or allowing oneself to be loved. After many years of therapy we came to a crossroad, a decision to continue the hate and anger, or attempt to redefine what love is or should be again. It is not an easy path to walk.
SoulWind