Comment by Barton 23 Oct 2010 at 3:13 pm

Karen,

Can you find a way to talk to a friend of mine who is extremely disturbed. She read your book. I can’t help her. I don’t know how. She has alters don’t know how many but she pisses me off all the time. I can’t handle it anymore. I suggested she seek therapy as you repeatedly suggest in your blog answers but she claims only you can help her. I think she needs professional help and not you who must be drained from such constant requests. I know she is on your facebook account and sends you a ton of crap that I am happy you ignore. It is nice of you to answer one a day that helps. Can Dr. Baer take her on as a patient? She lives near you guys in the Chicago area. I can get her to him. I am retired and tired of fighting a lost battle. Today I could strangle her but don’t be concerned I won’t. I found your site and ordered your book today.

Thank you.

Bart

Dear Bart,

Thank you for believing I can be of help but I am not a therapist and can’t give advice. It would be inappropriate for me to talk with your friend. But I will pray for her and I wish her well. It’s my hope that she will seek professional help with a qualified therapist. What I can say is that therapy helped me. Tell her being afraid to talk to someone is like allowing her abusers to win while she is kept a prisoner of her past.

I know who you’re referring to and read about her distress and responded to her a few days later. I can’t take on a relationship that may drain me and jeopardize all the work I’ve done to stay healthy. Please know I care and hope that all those who write to me find my story helpful. It is my desire to encourage hope through sharing my story. Dr. Richard Baer is no longer counseling patients.

Thank you for ordering Switching Time. It’s my hope that in reading my story you will find a sense of calm in how to help your friend. I can hear your frustration and I feel your pain. However, it’s nice to know that despite the aggravation she puts you through, you still found a place in your heart to write in hope to help her. I admire that! I wish more friends of multiples cared as you do. I believe it’s healthy to want to strangle her and I’m glad to know that you won’t! Sounds to me like you’re stressed and feeling overwhelmed. Please take care of yourself first!

Wishing you all my best,

Karen