Comment by Heather on 28 Oct 2010 at 9:25 am

How are you? I read your story and would like to know more about your doctor patient relationship. My therapist is writing my story and his writings hurt me. I am still in therapy but dont believe he cares except for the book. Had you felt hurt while in the process? Has you therapist hurt you?

Thank you. Love your story.

Heather

Dear Heather,

I am well. Thank you for asking! I’m sorry that you’re feeling hurt by your doctor writing your story, but I’m not sure how to respond to your question without knowing more. You mentioned you are still in therapy. First, there should be no writing while you are still in the midst of therapy unless the therapeutic part of you relationship has ended and you and your therapist have discussed the writing at length.

Was I hurt? That’s too strong of a word for me to use to describe how I felt during the writing of Switching Time. I admit, it was very emotional and disturbing at times, but that was the reality of my story. Seeing my story written was like re-experiencing part of the pain again. I have no regrets, but I have to admit it was emotionally draining at times. But Dr. Baer and I worked together to address every single issue, emotion, thought, discomfort, and moment of confusion. Between us we resolved most issues. The reality of sharing my story was difficult, but I believe necessary to help those who suffer as I once did or know of someone who has suffered.

I do not know your story, but if I were you I would ask myself whether this book is in my best interest and in the interest of helping others, and most importantly, is it hurting my therapy. If not, and you continue to feel hurt or victimized, just tell your therapist to STOP. It’s your choice, your decision. You have to give your consent to have your story told, and you can revoke that consent at any time.

Please think through what you have shared with me and share the same with your therapist. Tell him exactly how his written words have hurt you. It will be best for the both of you to honest and open now and in the future. It was not an easy decision for me, but by sharing my story I have been rewarded tenfold. Whenever I read a letter from someone who claims I have inspired or helped I feel I have fulfilled my purpose. And that’s a good feeling.

Wishing you a sense of calm on your journey.

Karen