Comment by Lola on 01 Aug 2011 at 6:49 am

Hi Karen,

I recently began my journey in therapy and feel very uncomfortable in sharing. I read you also had a hard time. Can you tell me what to say or to expect and how can talking about my pain help my future?

Thank you, you are the strongest most sincere person I ever read about.

Lola

Dear Lola,

Thank you for sharing. I do understand you feeling uncomfortable sharing. I felt uncomfortable, too! Most of my early sessions I spent in fear of sharing. What did I fear? That Dr. Baer would stop treating me or think I was disgusting. I was sickened by what had happened to me. I felt ashamed and afraid to share my truth. But in order to move forward,  I knew I had to start somewhere. I admit, it took some time, but together with my therapist, we established rapport and I began to trust him. Once I started, I couldn’t stop talking. Finally, I felt I could share without judgment. I felt secure and able to share everything in the safety of therapy. Please know that it’s best to share with your therapist so that together you can build your therapy relationship.

Please don’t be too hard on yourself. It takes time to heal and begin sharing what you had so successfully kept hidden within yourself. But from my experience I know my sharing felt like releasing a ton of bricks.  It was a freedom that I never thought possible. Keeping dark thoughts and secrets made me ill. As I shared, I started feeling better. It was an amazing feeling once I started to release my past and let go of the junk that kept me imprisoned within myself.

Wishing you all my best as you continue your journey to wellness.

Karen