Comment by Ray on 12 Sep 2011 at 12:20 am

If thoughts could kill do you believe you would have killed your abusers? You once wrote a mind is a powerful thing. How did you know things beforhand? Can you still predict things?

Ray

Dear Ray,

Kill my abusers? Yes, I admit, I had those thoughts at times, but doing so wouldn’t have made me feel any better about myself. Not only would I still have been abused, but I would carry the guilt of killing another human being. I believe it’s not my job to judge, and that God will take care of those who abused me. I let it go so that I can move forward to become my best self. It’s against my nature to hurt anyone.  My abusers may have hurt me, but if I turned to violence like them, it would mean they would have won. I’m alive and well. My abusers are dead.

I did say that “the mind is a powerful thing” through an alter. I believe I meant that we choose our own destiny. If I choose to be a victim, then I’ll always feel like a victim. I chose instead to constantly be on guard and that has taught me to trust my instincts. That’s a bit different than predicting things.  I listen intently to others, have compassion, and know that my instincts are usually right. I trust myself.

Thank you for your challenging questions.

Karen