Comment by Leia on 25 Oct 2011 at 2:18 am

Hi Karen,

I’ve read Switching Time for the third time now. My question is, what role does your mother and brothers have in your life now? After this 3rd read, I still find myself very angry with them each time. I hope they are not in your life anymore. I know you must be there for your niece, who was also abused, but I find it inexcusable that your brothers and mother did nothing but add to your abuse. I would love to also add what an incredible human being your are. You are so strong and your love is so broad. Thank you for sharing your story with the world.

Leia

Dear Leia,

Forgiveness has played a big part in letting go of the toxic people in my life. That surely includes my mother and brother, but it’s not my job to judge them. I had to let go to be in peace. I believe my mother and brother need to come to their own healing.  I pray they do!  I know I can’t fix those who hurt me, nor do I have the patience to deal with their bad behavior.  I recently learned that I was holding onto some anger for them. I knew this because every time I dealt with my mother or brother, I would become physically ill. I didn’t put two and two together until my world was challenged once again.

My way of healing and moving forward is to lessen my contact with those who are abusive and hurtful. I’ve made amends and refuse to harbor dark thoughts or wait for an apology from those who hurt me. I have to move on. I admit there are times I make a mistake and try to trust my family again, so I realize I’m still learning. I do keep in contact with my beautiful niece; she has read the book and is happy and currently engaged to be married.

Thank you for your kind thoughts and compliments! I am grateful and blessed.

Karen