Comment by Jack on 16 Feb 2012 at 3:51 pm

I have a frank question and without meaning to insult you would like to know if you ever recovered sexually after the horrific abuse you suffered? Do you fear intimacy? Have you been sexually active since integration of your many parts? If you are, how is that going for you? I would love to hear that all is well and forseeable. My heart aches after reading your book. I hope you find happiness with a nice man who sees past your past and accepts the amazingly blessed woman you are. Blessings to you.

Jack

Dear Jack,

Nice of you to ask these questions in the respectful way that you have.  I’m not offended. Though I do understand how one may wonder about my finding intimacy after hearing my story, it’s important to know that there is recovery when one chooses to let go of the past and live in the present, while looking forward to a future free from being a victim.

Regarding recovering from sexual abuse. Yes, I have. I do not connect my past experience of being sexually abused to my present life experiences. I do not fear intimacy and look forward to meeting and engaging in pleasant experiences. All is well and it’s important for me to find relationships that are built on respect, love, and caring. I do not engage in demeaning or toxic relationships. As far as whether I’ve met someone special, not yet, but that does not mean I don’t look forward to meeting someone who will compliment my life.

Experiencing love after being abused is possible.

Thank you for caring… and for your blessings.

Karen